make more eye contact

It was good having this reminder of what’s important in social interaction on my list. But I’m no longer noticing it, so off it goes. Though I will always have to keep working on this at some level, I’m going to take it out of focus for awhile.

When training Taekwon Do, when you face s/o to practice attacks and defences, the trick is to look your opponent straight in the eyes. Instead of looking on their hands or feet.
It really works so well, you see everything coming.
And still, each time I look in the eyes of the person facing me I feel awkward.

So, I guess training Taekwon Do is useful in many ways.

And, heh, my eyes looking in two different directions might even be an advantage when it comes to free fight. I mean, look at it (argh!) positively!
Straight into its eyes. :)

because I am squint-eyed. My right eye has poor vision and gazes dreamingly into the otherworld…

That’s the nice way to describe it.

Another way to describe it: a guy once asked me if I had a glass eye…

It’s not pretty, and I got it since I was a little child. Thus I have trained myself to avoid eye contact.
Which is not good for those job interviews I must do.
It’s even worse for the job interview coachings I go through at the moment…

Looking straight at people makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable each time I force myself to do it.
And it can irritate people, too, because sometimes they don’t know that the left eye is the one.

Aw, heck. Still, I am training to make more eye contact.
I got a notion that I am missing very much because of me not looking straight at people.

I got a notion this is even somehow connected to my Get Married-goal…

Its just a good habit. I can remember a time that I practiced this and it seemed very beneficial to my conversations. They make the conversation more meaningful and can help others to listen.

Tried it yesterday. I mean, I talk to people, but unknowingly tend to glance away every so often. I realized I was doing it yesterday and I was like, keep eye contact… Keep eye contact…

Sometimes I intentionally avoid eye contact, to disconnect myself from someone and keep an interaction less personal, more distanced. I THINK I want to stop doing that but I’m not sure. OK, I’m gonna try it and see if it ends in disaster and discomfort.

im getting way better at this. i still screw up sometimes but something is definately helping, when i walk down the street, or in the train/bus any public transportation: i look people in the eye, and if they look at me too i stay looking at them until they finally look away. its definately uncomfortable at first, but now i do it all the time and when im talking to someone i usually look them in the eye now. WOO

I can never look someone in the eye. I can for like 2 seconds then I look away because it just seems kinda weird… idk i dont want to people to think I am not friendly and stuff beceause i dont make eye contact, its just one of those things i dont do very well

Now that I look people in the eye I can see how many of them are looking back.

i got glasses today so thats going to help! :D