meet up with people i haven't seen in awhile

j’adore mon ami H.! He’s part of the original posse who all met up back in 95 and I still count him as one of my closest pals. He’s happily living in SF along with his hottie lawyer wife and they’re starting up their own business. I miss him! He puts up with all my crazy boy stories ; ) He totally ratted me out to the cute brit barman at Schillers last night! Sometimes I want to move out to SF just so we can all hang out again more often. Sigh, if only my life’s plan could accommodate that.

I double booked myself last night with some meet-ups -

S.

Quite possibly the smartest/cutest/sweetest packaged guy I had ever met. (Okay, too many “est’s” in that descriptor – we can all barf now.) I was envious of him the first time I met him because he apparently had everything I had wanted for myself. I’m rarely jealous of anyone, much less men. Although I think I can confidently say I probably have a less cornier sense of humour than he does. We met up last night and he is still sweet, smart and has just enough nerdiness that makes him quite mignon.

He unwittingly helped me get over the supposed love of my life. Strangely, it took a person who rejected me (while I was very much interested in him) to get over a broken heart. I always thought I needed to fall in love with someone else to get over M., but not quite. This was just the break that I needed, because trying to win over S. provided just enough pause in healing my heart over M. This time however, since I never got more than ankle deep into the love puddle with S., there were no broken hearts.

And when I finally had gotten over my infatuation, I then realized I was finally over M too. And for that, I will always be grateful to S.

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A.

Okay, we still IM each other few times a week, but I hadn’t seen A. in at least a year. Every time he comes to visit us it’s always good times. But he’s like a rock. He’s been through a lot of change in his life, but he’s always there to lend an ear and solid, honest advice. He’s one of the first real friends I made when we officially entered adulthood back when we were 22 and I am ever so blessed to have folks like him still in my life. He’s also the only one I personally know with as much fervor for karaoke as I have. Too bad I left the camera at home last night so I couldn’t capture our faux 80’s rockstar-ness : )

we knew each other from highschool – and she didn’t change a bit! SOH still had the same giggle and sarcastic humour which always cracked me up. When we were seniors, we were the “high school video yearbook co-executive producers” back before reality TV took over television programming. we haven’t seen each other in 5 years, and before that 10 years, which was kinda funny since we both studied and lived in nyc during all that time. she told me she still had a photograph i sent to her posted on her wall, which was really nice – i hadn’t taken “arty” photos in at least 12 years. i had forgotten i used to do that. last night was good times all around – catching up on almost 5 years. we didn’t close out the bar, but we did outlast at least several rotations of bar patrons.


sometimes we have reminders of our past that we don’t ever want to re-live, and other times we run into people, places, things from our previous lives that make us yearn for those moments again. i absolutely dreaded highschool. but that last year in school, when SOH and I became really good friends, that was the year i began to know and trust myself and really come into my own.

geez, i haven’t seen this guy in like 6 months or so (okay that really doesn’t seem like a long time) all around seemingly too cool for school guy, but without the attitude. an actual rockstar who plays the lapsteel.

i wish i could be as laid back as he is – he just seems to actually experience life instead of just watching it go whiz by. i need to hang with him more often.

that you always say to, “oh yeah we have to hang out sometime”
and sometimes you mean it, and well sometimes you don’t. but this year, in effort to save myself from having the lifeforce sucked out of me by just concentrating on the j.o.b. and to expand my circle of friends, i’m making a concerted efforted to meet up with anyone and everyone who i actually like/found interesting – this includes old friends from school, neighbors, past colleagues, and yes even old dates/bfs who i’m still on good terms with.