call my family more

I think I need to start calling the family at least once a week. We are not big phone talkers, but maybe I can change that!

I should call my parents twice a month and try to call my siblings once a month.

I admit I’m not good at this. I have never liked the phone, and I don’t like to call unless I have something to say. But, of course, if I don’t call and keep people updated on my life then the current stories don’t make sense because they don’t have the background for them. Also, I don’t have a real strong connection to most of my family, but I would really like to change that, they won’t always be there and I would like to get to know them better while I can. The best part about being an adult is knowing you can walk away if things get bad. When you’re a kid you have to put up with things and I think I forget that I don’t have to stay anywhere I don’t feel like being anymore.

So my goal is to call one member of my family (besides my mom who I talk to all the time) once a month.

talking to my family. Especially with my mom.

Today I went on and on about boundaries. I can only handle so much victim mentality. If we don’t like how we are treated, there is often something we can do about that!

Fortunately she seems open and ready to talk about these things! It is pretty cool!

But it is weird to have figured out these things before your mom. And difficult to figure out how far to go.

I mean, I am not a counsellor. I’d prefer to be a daughter.

I’ve had to make sure I’ve caught my dad too, as I’ve felt I should probably reassure him that I won’t be like I was when he visited last year. I was still in ‘pull’ mode then. Enough has happened in the past year, including with him, that I am past that. Actually, I think his visit last year was the turning point.

I’m a bit nervous… he arrives tomorrow. My sister says he’s excited. He didn’t sound excited when I talked to him on the weekend. I guess I pick up that trait from my parents. Fear of showing happiness or excitement (at least to the people who really matter).

last night.

the last people I would think of talking to when I need support?

Is there no way to change the childhood dynamics, now that I’m an adult?

I suppose likely not. That is just wishful thinking.
It would just lead to more pain, when I’m met with silence.

When you free try to call your family or write a letter each month !!It will help !!x)

...i just so whatever the daily rtm task list says to do. it says call, i call.

although part of me thinks its kind of sad that i need a task list to remember to call my family….

...to task me into doing this :-p

ah, my web2.0 life.