create a personal mission statement

My personal mission is to love, to live and to give.

In summary
Love is the cornerstone and foundation for my life. Without love, I could do nothing and with love, all things are possible.

To live means I will grow, celebrate and be grateful for being in this time, this place. I will enjoy the small miracles as well as the giant blessings that are a part of each day.

To give means I will share my time, talents and finances. I will give to my spiritual home and causes that I am led to share with.

If you haven’t read Laurie Beth Jones’ The Path, you should ! Her book teaches you how to create your mission statement for work and for life.

It reads as follows:

I focus my intentions on love, peace, harmony and deeper understanding in my life. I wish the same for those I come in contact with. I learn, share and grow on my spiritual journey through hope, optimism, intuition and total acceptance of myself and others. My greatest joy is experiencing love and peace within my heart. The legacy I leave is my writing, poetry and sharing a belief of unity among us, we are one. My never-ending quest for enlightenment, peace and knowledge of spiritual law nourishes my soul. I value love, honor, respect, forgiveness and integrity. I aspire to teach and learn from my children and countless other teachers on my life path. I experience my best life ever, being centered in the consciousness of my heart. I delight in joyful, promising, prosperous life experiences. I picture my desires and expect them, or something better to manifest. My prayer is that I truly awaken to my prrpose for being here and do it, be it, have it. I focus on and complete that which is mine to do, joyfully, effectively and lovingly.

I’ll see about revising this, making any nesessary adjustments~

I know that personal mission statements change as a person’s values, experiences, and life changes, but I have finally created a mission that means something to me at this point in my life. I just needed to refine the statement that I created six months ago by adding a few other things that I value in my life.

My purpose of each day for the rest of my life is to dedicate myself to a life of continuous scholarly and worldly pursuits, development of new skills, improvement of ethical character, development of physical wellness and abilities, and honoring my family, friends, and eternal beloved with love, compassion, and support.

My next step is to repeat this mission to myself like the pledge of allegiance as a continuous reminder.

After seeing a goal someone else posted, I was thinking it would be a good idea to do this again- making it relevant for now~

I also remember reading a similar article about avoidant attachment style. As a child I was sent for day-care very early, which my mother says, has been very stressful for me.

http://psychology.about.com/od/loveandattraction/ss/attachmentstyle_6.htm

I think the root of the issue may be way, way, way deeper. I am feeling my whole body and mind rebelling against me looking any deeper into the bonding issue. I am feeling so much tension. I think this one will be really hard. And that is why I will begin it tomorrow with the vision board. 15 minutes at a time.

it’s kind of strange that I omitted the word bond when I was writing about the vision board, and then, out of curiosity when I checked here, I saw I had omitted it too!!!

I edited both posts, however the point is that I think this is really showing me what the hardest part will be.

There is a part of me that really likes it all to be about ME, ME, and ME! Sometimes it gets its way by preventing me to see the beauty in other people (who wants to spend time with a bunch of losers?) or by telling me that I am a worthless person (who wants to hang out with me anyways?).

I think I am uncovering something very sore and very deep inside me, and this time, however, I am going to face it, understand it and deal with it.

I think it has been in a way the root of procrastination (nobody to meet, nowhere to go, no friends to call, so why not spend the whole day wasting time and spend the evening doing all the put-off stuff?).

In a way this has been a self-protective mechanism, I suppose, because I remember a time when I was obsessed with being popular, so popular that I wanted to people call me all the time, ask me out, beg for my company, however I only agreed few times because I felt like I was too good for it anyways.

I guess sometime back in my teens it must have all started when I have tried to portray this fake image of unavailability, which eventually became a part of me. Ok this post is getting really too much, but yes, I think it’s been some kind of, good-that-you-didn’t-call-because-i-had-way-more-important-things-than-hang-out-with-you kind of thing.

Now I know that it’s not about other people seeing me as a fun, cool, sexy or whatever person, and it’s not about having cool friends and it’s not about having the cool friends really want to hang out with me. It’s about me trying to understand other people and be a good friend, and experiencing true and real and meaningful relationships (bonds) with others, and I guess it’s time for the little Miss High School Princess to get this one too.

I am marking this one as done because it will give me a sense of achievement. The goal was to create the statement. Visually representing it is a seperate thing in itself. Hence I added a whole new goal about it. :)

I just found that one of my favorite bloggers (Christine Kane) has written an article about how to make vision boards. I wonder if I can adapt the process and make it digital? I also realized that the way my mission statement came out (in simple words not sentences), has been inspired by her, as she has suggested coming up with one word each year to focus on instead of making (and breaking resolutions). So all the time spent on the internet has taught me a few things after all :)

http://christinekane.com/blog/how-to-make-a-vision-board/

Nourish:
This one is first because I think my body is in a desperate need of my self-love and self-care. My physical needs have always been the first ones I have neglected when I have procrastinated too much: sleep, exercise, time to eat have always been very easy for me to skip, just to get things done my usual last-minute way. That is why I am starting with this in the first place, because nourishing myself has been the last thing I have had time for for a very long time.

Start: I put this one here, because if I have to be honest, when looking back I see myself as a procrastinator. I still didn’t put this on my 43 list because I don’t want to focus on procrastination too much (it has a counter effect somehow), however the truth is the truth. I am not sure what the deeper reasons for this have been, however, I have found out that I have a tendency to be afraid of things and think they are way more complicated than what they actually are and then I always regret not starting them earlier because I always enjoy them once I actually get around to do them. Even writing the mission statement was such a fog in the beginning and now I am enjoying doing it (don’t need the timer any more), and, yes, surprisingly, I did come up with one in the end.

Complete: this one is here because I sometimes have a tendency to not completely finish things even when I have struggled greatly to begin them and have finally begun them. I somehow tend to leave a thing or two unfinished, unpolished, not quite yet done, which I think I subconsciously do in order to torture myself. Sometimes I will work for days on a paper and then do the references really crappy – silly things like that, which I want to end.

So far I have found the flylady way to be a great way for me to actually get started with things and do them. The most valuable tool has been then 15 minute rule and also the idea of making lists of simple steps that I can follow almost without thinking.

I hope that if I do manage to always start and complete things I will be able to do the next three guilt-free.

Bond: – by this one I mean nourishing all my personal, professional and family relationships. I do crave relationships and socializing, which I have achieved in a very egoistic and artificial way so far. I do want to have true friendships and I think that the way to do that is to be a better friend myself, to try to understand others instead of use them and actually care about them.

Create: – the creative side of me has been lying dormant for a long time and I am glad I took a break of 5 months in which it finally had space to come out. I am happy to have found this long lost part of me and I am making friends with it. I have had incredible experiences doing scrap booking and graphic design and other artistic experiments and I think much of my previous internal suffering will be removed now that I have opened those channels for self-expression.

Enjoy: – I do want to enjoy everything I do. This word is here because I do want to take pleasure in all I do. I believe that enjoying things is a choice. For example, I don’t think tasks are enjoyable and boring, rather I can choose to enjoy everything I want. I want to remind myself more often of this.

Share: I have always been one who wants to share things: be it food, thoughts, money, efforts or energy. The thing is because I have neglected myself, procrastinated, broken down relationships I have often found that I don’t have the energy or time to share anything, and, even worse, nobody who actually needs my sharing. I do hope that this will change as I proceed in my journey.