I have so many needy people in my life who flip out over the most unworthy things. Why get all bent out of shape? It is what it is. It’ll be ok. Chill out. 17 months ago
How I did it: In comparison to a lot of other people I have been associated with lately, I think I can say this goal is had. I feel much more at ease. I feel I handle situations rather well. I don't take things too personally, and when I do, I am able to step back and see the other persons point of view. I find that is something that is essential. Make sure you take in to consideration every point of view, and you understand the situation so much better.
Also something that comes in handy is the realization that nothing lasts forever. I was told this all my life, but it only just recently hit me. Things really do end. And you have to find the enjoyment in what is in your life now. Because if all this time you just pay attention to what's bothering you, you'll look back with disappointment.
Once it's over, move on. Don't grumble and moan on about how bad that was.
And in facing a difficult up coming situation, try not to build up anticipation towards it. Then you just get tense, and upset and most likely it won't be half as bad as what your imagination might come up with.
Make the best of what you can't change. I can't stress enough how useless the drama really is when it's over such simple little things. Read how I did it… 17 months ago
“sometimes when you really like someone your not meant to be lovers, your meant to be freinds” 2 years ago
I’m not really sure what to think, or even if I’m just over thinking it all. I tell people I don’t really care and it isn’t something I really think about. I wish this were true.
I am so good at making people I’m not interested in think I’m interested and people I am interested in think I’m not. Then again I am also really good at choosing the very wrong person to be interested in and attracting in return the other type of very wrong.
and this is why i don’t date. why it’s on my mind so much lately i do not know. 2 years ago
crazy. People can be rude, and disrespectful. But there is nothing I can do but smile at them, and say “I hope your day gets better!” or “Well I hope you have some luck!” And when these gosh darn pool players leave my hours will be normal again and the crowds of bunches of rudeness will be gone! So I should just smile and remember that it is just a job and in the end i will pay my bills buy myself food, and life will go on ;p
For every jacka** i deal with today perhaps there will be a nice person I will meet tomorrow. 2 years ago
that’s that. but nothing i can do about it. i would like to know why it keeps happening to me. but guess that is just the way it has to be. worse things happen and i am still very grateful for all the good in my life regardless of just one thing that doesn’t ever go the way i had hoped. i will get over it. in this second though, i ask “why every time? why not just once in my favor?” :-/ 2 years ago
And it is just the word I was looking for. It is infinitely strong because it holds so much in it – it holds endless time and uncountable number of actions and within those actions, this action in particular. Acceptance is something that comes with that word, because once you get there, you will always stay there.
My first step towards acceptance is reaching indifference instead of disappointment that I feel for some things that are happening in the world around me. 2 years ago
Grrrr..one more thing in my home that has quit. Luckily I have a home warrentee so they will come out and fix it, Unfortunately, I still owe them 60.00 and it will be another 60.00 plus the time I have to take off work…At least I have the home warrentee! Thats what is! 2 years ago
This also falls under my goal of “stop complaining,” but I woke up this morning in total darkness. I was about to start grumbling about the lack of sunlight, but stopped myself when I realized that there’s literally nothing I can do about this. It’s only for a while longer, anyway, because Daylight Savings is coming up. 2 years ago
I owed 65 dollars on a bill that was over 300.00. Last Friday I went on their website to pay the remaining 65.00 and their pay by web service was down. I thought, “well it will be o.k until Monday. WRONG. Monday I go online and pay the bill…Then…I get home from work and my powers off! Crud! So I call the company, they say it is going to cost 75.00 to get it back on and since I don’t have a security deposit they want an additional 300.00 by the 31st. Whaaaaa. But, that is “what is.” 3 years ago
so i remind myself that relationships are more important then money, and i should lighten up. 3 years ago
I’ve been thinking about what it means to just accept what is in my life. Things I have to accept, like my brothers behavior because I can’t change it. Then there are things that I can change, when I have trouble accepting them. If I go through the process of trying to change things about myself, am I failing on accepting what is?
nah, I don’t think so. Because I only want to change the things that make me feel sad. Like the antisocial part of me. The safe side, that takes less chances. There are things I’m accepting about myself too. But maybe there’s more of what I’m not then what I am… 3 years ago
so I might as well stop crying over it. or feeling anxious about it. Or mooping around because of it. Concentrate on other things in this same moment and just be happy to have a destraction. 3 years ago
I used to hold a belief that if I accept something I don’t want to have in my life, I put myself into a position where I can’t act on it anymore. Instead of surrendering to whatever situation I was in, I fought against it in order to get rid of it. I thought acceptance would exclude the possibility of taking action.
Lately I’ve found that when I take every moment as it is and accept it as if I had chosen it, often the whole problem dissolves. When it doesn’t and I need to take action on it, I’ve found that my actions coming from acceptance are much more powerful than those coming from nonacceptance. I don’t know why, but they just seem to work better. It’s interesting – my previous self would have expected the exact opposite to happen.
The hard part is sticking to this way of thinking when really big, seemingly world-is-coming-to-an-end problems arise – hence why I need this goal. Hopefully having it in my list will remind me of acceptance when I suddenly find myself going back to my old ways of fighting against what already is. If you catch me doing that, please kindly remind me of this goal :-) 3 years ago