Whenever someone compliments me I usually say something like:
‘No I’m not.’
‘What the? I’m so not.’
‘Oh my gosh, your just saying that.’
I wish I could just say:
‘Thanks!’
‘Really? Thankyou!’
jinjergurl is learning and growing.
How I did it: Slowly over time you have to realize that people will express things that they feel are true to make you happy. Even if they are fudging a little the sentiment behind a compliment is kind and loving. If someone is being insincere the best way to deal with them is to accept their "compliment" with pleasure and leave them to their musings. If it makes you feel good, why not accept it, embrace it, and enjoy it. Read how I did it…
Whenever someone compliments me I usually say something like:
‘No I’m not.’
‘What the? I’m so not.’
‘Oh my gosh, your just saying that.’
I wish I could just say:
‘Thanks!’
‘Really? Thankyou!’
violentwife Loves Spock and Uhura.
automatically shoot down something someone has said to compliment me.
I catch myself doing it all the time. And its really unbecoming. One of my other things on my list of 43things was to be more confident and part of that is learning how to take compliments better. I will write entries on this so that i can track my progress.
squirrelonmybalcony is thinking a lot
I’d better be careful that I don’t start sticking my nose up in the air.
jaspurlin is striving for balance
comes from the same problem of social akwardness. My social conditioning wasn’t complete, I don’t feel, and often got mixed up on what to do with the information that comes with a compliment.
I’ve since learned to usually just smile and say “thank you”. I have even learned to be comfortable with compliments, and now enjoy to recieve them, whereas before they made me uncomfortable.
The simplest way for a confident and well-adjusted individual to do so is to say: Thank You
its not that i don’t like gettin comcompliments its just that sometimes i don’t believe them because now and days people will say things cuz they think you wanna hear it and i don’t want to hear it if its not true , like when guys be like your cute, pretty, damn you fine, its not that i don’t believe it i just have a hard time accepting that cuz i aint the only female hes been trying to spit game at.
Abigail has adopted a little Callie!
Even though I marked this done, I still have to work on it! I caught myself the other day saying, “Oh, today it looks awful!” instead of “Thank you!” when someone said she loved my hair. I have such a love-hate relationship with my hair (okay, mostly hate) that I just reacted with honesty. I would love to get to the point where a thank you IS the most honest reaction!
I am really bad at taking compliments. I just don’t know what to say. I want to be modest, so I say, no, no. But then they reassure me. I don’t want to come off as one of those teenagers who can’t accept that they’re good at something and think their life sucks. Because that’s not true. I have a good life. I am happy. I am happy. I am happy. I am happy. I am happy. I am happy. I am happy. I am happy. I am happy. I am happy. My life is wonderful. I have a magical unicorn. But I want to be able to accept compliments, yet remain modest.
Abigail has adopted a little Callie!
I have been proud of myself lately in compliment situations. Donald’s aunt exclaimed and exclaimed over my weight loss and altered appearance, and I think I handled it very well. Especially since compliments about weight are the hardest for me to take, I am pleased. Now to handle compliments from his parents on our next trip, which will be harder, since I’m constantly on guard with them.