don't hold grudges

I really got into it with someone about whether pets should be allowed in our building. She took personal shots at me rather than keeping it professional. It took a day or two to let it die down but I opted to not hold anything against her. It wasn’t worth it. I had a friend who stopped talking to me 10 yrs ago. No one knows why. I wasn’t the only victim. I don’t want to be like him. None of us could have ever done anything to warrant such treatment. He is my inspiration for never wanting to hold a grudge! Life it too short!

... sometimes come back. Isn’t that the truth? I got an email from an old friend asking me to join linked-in. So I added him to my list of contacts and noticed a former best friend of mine was listed under his contacts. It’s really sad- this person abandoned several of us about 7 yrs ago for no apparent reason. None of us know why but I’ve heard he has a grudge against us. Whenever I find myself feeling like I should hold a grudge I just let go b/c I am so much happier not having that hanging over my head. I think I did it when I was younger b/c it was the “thing to do”. Now older and more mature and in a state where I do things b/c I want to and not b/c someone else wants me to, I have completely removed myself from the state of mind of holding grudges. It deeply saddens me that people still can’t get over something and chances are it’s something so small and insignificant that a simple conversation would have solved it!

If there is any goal where I made the bggest strides to achieve it’s this one! I sometimes held grudges but it was mostly b/c people around me did it when they were mad at someone. I never liked the feeling of it and it didn’t feel right. i guess writing it down and consciously being aware of it really made me get away from it. I really like having no grudges- it is one less negative thing I have on my conscious!

If there is any goal where I made the bggest strides to achieve it’s this one! I sometimes held grudges but it was mostly b/c people around me did it when they were mad at someone. I never liked the feeling of it and it didn’t feel right. i guess writing it down and consciously being aware of it really made me get away from it. I really like having no grudges- it is one less negative thing I have on my conscious!

My sister is classic at holding grudges. I saw it again over the holiday weekend. It made me realize how happy I am that I’m not like that and that I make an effort not to be like that even if I want to be. There are certain circumstances where you can’t let someone get away with something but you can’t hold a grudge either. It’s better to let go b/c then you are in peace with yourself.

Sometimes it’s weird about the stuff you think about. I was thinking about someone I held a grudge against 6 years ago. I was driving to work and I couldn’t figure out why. I also couldn’t figure out why I was thinking about this b/c I had all but forgotten about this person. However, there was a situation I knew that was going to present itself later in the day that mirrored what happened 6 years ago. I could either learn from it and be mature about it or relive the past. I decided to look beyond the past and start anew.

If I said anything else in the title, I’d be blastlisted! This is one of the worst characteristics of a person. I know a guy would hold a grudge against people to the point where he’d never talk to them again without their ever knowing what they did to him! I know sometimes I hold grudges but they’re usually more to make a statement than anything. I cannot do it for more than a couple days even if I tried. I mean, it sucks too much energy out of a person and then you have it on your conscious. Is it worth it? I think it’s in my nature to hold a grudge for a little while but I’d prefer not to do it b/c a lot of times it messes up the day or the moment. Even if it’s for a little while, it doesn’t accomplish much if anything. Besides, if you think back, you probably wouldn’t remember why you held the grudge in the first place!