get over being cheated on

It’s been a little over a year. We started being friends again (then his friend and I ended up sleeping together) which he (my ex) knew I did not do to get back at him for cheating on me, or to hurt him…it just happened. Well then my ex and I stopped talking completely because he said at that point in time it was still too hard for him to talk to me without feeling bad about his cheating on me.

This all happened back in like May or so…well then about a month or two ago apparently about a month after all that (and during all that him and I nearly slept together) well about a month or so after that he has a new girlfriend (who apparently he knocked up) but surprisingly I honestly don’t care.

The friend of his (who is also a friend of mine) and I are still SUPER close friends. Not sleeping together anymore though but super close. My ex’s sister and I are friends still (or rather again) his mom and I are still semi friends, his brother and I are still friends.

My life hasn’t ended though he cheated on me, and I am doing good in school. I’m doing good at my job without him. I don’t need him. I have my friends.

Though it might be bad I have a huge crush on the friend who is friends with me and my ex (the friend I slept with). But I care more about my friendship with him.

But I am doing SO MUCH better now. I’ll always care about my ex (just like I’ll always care about all my ex’s) they all have a special place in my heart. But I don’t need him. He is my ex for a reason. He didn’t make it to my future for a reason. He is in my past for a reason. And I’m still living. I’m going to be fine. I can survive anything.

I was cheated on by this guy… obviously. I’d liked him for two years, he was my best friend. So when he told me he liked me back, it was like… a dream come true, right? Wrong. He cheated on me with my pregnant, then-ex-best friend-we’d stopped talking about two months before, when she’d gotten pregnant. So he made out with her, or whatever. I was fucking crushed, okay? This was in April. Now we’re best friends again. I’m mostly over his cheating-he’s not that kind of person anymore-but I’m not over him. Worst part is? I’m currently dating his best friend. Who is a complete and total douche. Ahhh fmylife.

as ne-yo says, it’s important to clear mental space and that’s what i’m trying to do. i’m going to write the cheater a letter whether i mail it or not i’m not sure but i want to get my thoughts out. i find that keeping busy helps a lot to keep my mind off of ian and what he may be doing. i also had an interesting chat with a guy friend last night and we were talking about cheating etc. he’s a lot like i and i feel like a lot of his thoughts are mirrored in i.

we’ll see if this helps!

She cheated on me with her ex on her 21st birthday because she wanted a happy ending.

I just found out that a couple of months ago my fiance was talking to this girl we both work with. We were going through a tough time when all this happened and they never had sex or kissed or anything. It was just some emails amd im’s but he did tell her he would leave me for her and that he was only with me because of our child. The whole thing only lasted like a week and he said that he honestly didnt mean any of that but im still pretty hurt and dont know what to do. Any advice?

i automatically assumed that when he wasn’t answering his phone, he was with someone else…prob her. but he says he was sleeping and i didn’t even think about it again after that first thought. i’m happy that i didn’t fixate on it or worry about it unnecesarily. i need him to come to me because he wants to be with me, not because i’m forcing him to. it will take time but i’ll grow into a trusting person again. as the woman said on the show, he has made me believe in love of the truest form, and he makes me happier than i’ve ever been so i will learn.

i’m starting to realize that if he wanted to cheat on me, nothign i can do will stop that and just because c cheated on me, doesn’t mean i will! i need to be strong and confident!

His sister & I got into it about a week ago she said she didnt think I cared about him so I told her “ha if I dont care about him then why is it I am concerned and worried about his now drinking and smoking when he is only 19” and she didnt think I was serious that he was drinking…so I showed her the picture I had stumbled upon by mistake on his co-workers myspace.

His sister & him got into it two nights ago…to get back at him she showed his mom the pictures I showed her of him drinking alcohol. His mom then questioned him & when he asked how she found out about the pictures his mom said I showed them to her…knowing that if she said his sister did he would hurt his sister.

I then got home from hanging out with mutual friends of ours (who both say they now consider themselves more my friends than him…though I met them through him) but he’s been an ass to them a lot lately, and hasn’t been treating them how friends should be treated…so I signed into my myspace and (his mom had warned me that she told him I showed her the pictures) and so I noticed he is no longer on my friends list. He deleted me and blocked me.

I feel empty. I’m tired of crying, but at the same time all I want to do is cry.

I hate that I believed him everytime he said “I love you” to me…and every time he told me he wanted to be with me, and for trusting him enough to sleep with him…to give him my virginity. A part of me wishes I never dated him. Last time I did talk to him via internet he said he wasnt lying when he said he “loved” me. Part of me wants to believe him, but part of me can’t.

His/my friends (the ones who say they feel more like my friends than his) have to reassure me almost daily that he did love me.

I hate it all. Everything that use to intrest me not has no interest to me at all. The things that use to cause me joy, now do nothing for me. I cant even begin to count how many times a day I have the urge to overdose, or to cut myself, or worse. All I want to do is is lay in bed and cry all day until I cant cry anymore.

i feel like i had a small victory this week…i had many chances to check his phone but didn’t. at the same time, i’m pushing assumptions out of my head and confronting questionable actions head on. its hard to trust someone again but i’m trying. the first thing i need to do is not impeed on his personal space by sneaking through his phone. i’ve never been that girl and i refuse to become her!

with this and i was able to make reference to feelings that i’d raised with the therapist when i’d spoken with him last night and i think that helped. i was also able to see that certain non cheating things that ian does also put me on edge and i need to be able to seperate them from what clarence did and what ian is doing. like ian says, he’s not clarence!