I guess this is “done” now, as it’s part of my regular sex life and I keep finding new things about my own sexuality all the time. I guess the next step is to define my limits. I know a lot of things that are obviously fine by me and a lot of things that I don’t want to do as a submissive, but this needs a lot of finetuning.
How to be dominated
How I did it: Just talked to my existing partner about my fantasies, and it turns out that while our fantasies don't exactly mirror each other we're both willing to do things for each other, and anyway we both get turned on by watching each other get turned on.
Lessons & tips: Just talk to your partner. Surprisingly many people have some sort of control fantasies, and a good partner is willing to go that extra mile for you to do the exact thing that turns you on. And asking never hurt anybody.
Resources: http://xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html is a good starting point!
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This seems just great on all fronts right now. I’m being open and honest about what I want, and guess what? This results in me actually getting some of the things I want.
I’m breaking my own limits all the time. It’s fantastic! I never knew how very submissive I actually am!
Oh yes! My new love is totally into spanking me a bit (which is as much as I like to be spanked right now), putting me in handcuffs and generally playing the strong dominant role. This is a total turn-on for me. Today, to buy a better set of cuffs.
As with so many of my goals, I have no idea on when to chick this as done, as it was at best a vague dream when I set it up. But maybe not yet, when it feels like there’s so much to discover yet.
I have a new partner with whom we click very well this far and who seems possibly interested in this. I don’t want really hard BDSM, just some power play. Maybe when we have established a good sexual relationship we’ll negotiate about something more adventurous.
Maybe not with my current partner. He just probably isn’t into this sort of thing. And I’m not bery good in bringing it up, either, but it doesn’t help that he just NEVER does. I do want to try to bring up new stuff, but I don’t want to do it alone.
There have been… experiments. These things are just so damn hard to talk about. Here’s hoping I, or we, find the courage.
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deliciousdeath asks,
“want to dominate me?? please?”
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