stop defining myself by my failures

i’m getting there, I found an old envelope full of rejection letters i’d recieved last year for all the jobs i applied for, on the front i’d wrote, ‘i’m a failure’ today when i found it, instead of getting a downer and agreeing i got a pen, scratched out the words and wrote ‘no i’m not’
This is a big step for me, i’m actually not believing i’m as bad as i previously believed, i’m not feeling like i am everything i’ve failed at, i’m feeling like i am my achievements.
hard to explain but this is a big step forward for me.

and seeing how much I’ve grown since the last post on a goal.

What made me think of this goal was something I’d read in a book years ago. It said

Concentrate:
70 percent of your time and energy on strengths
25 percent on new things
5 percent on areas of weakness

That seems like a good start for someone just adopting this goal… or someone having a relapse. :)

Oh, and for me, going out of my way to spend as little time as possible, around people who enjoyed reminding me of every mistake, screw up and bad decision I’d ever made. Sometimes digging up things from ten years back or more. In the end I had to do some house cleaning of the people in my life but it was worth it. I’ve even grown to the point were I can fell ^{a little} compassion for them. I see now it was just their way of handling low self esteem

but it’s worth it. The first step for me was getting away from people who constantly reminded me of these things. I discovered this purely on accident (long story). The second step was listing all the things I was good at. It was a short list because I was just started to change my way of thinking. Even though the list was short, it felt pretty good.