learn how to help those who've lost loved ones to suicide heal

I have a friend hose son just died of suicide. And i dont know what to do (hes over 50). When it happend his son was a cop, so a lot of people showd up. people the family never meat. when somone dies, you will never know how and who its going to effect.

I had the coolest friend. He approached everyone he met with an engaging smile and an open heart. He had nothing but love and goodwill for everybody; no matter how he was treated, he was always faultlessly genial. The nastiest people would be disarmed by his sincere charm and warmth – and his radiant smile. He was a brilliant mathematician, a talented musician, an adventurous and joyful spirit, a giving friend, an extraordinary human being. He was full of goodness, and had an infinite capacity for happiness.

It astounds me that someone so gifted and so beloved could feel such despair. His loss is enormous and totally unnecessary. His pain must have been just as huge and was certainly just as unnecessary. With all that he gave to the world, someone should have been there for him when he, at long last, needed to take rather than to give. I regret to say that I wasn’t there for Troy, when he needed me. I will never have a chance to make it up to him. My heart will never again be warmed by his beautiful smile. All that’s left for me to do is to tell the world about his magnificent soul.

I was hoping to begin my education, yesterday, at the local suicide crisis/aftermath centre, but the therapist insisted on focusing on me, which was annoying. It wasn’t a useless session, but I’d hoped to learn how to help others, not myself, so I didn’t fulfill the purpose I’d had in mind. I’m hoping that at my coming session, next week, we’ll move past me to discuss how I can help other people, too. If not, I’ll have to find another route to achieving this goal.