think

When I think about it.. I realize that I don’t think much.
I let other people do the thinking for me.
I give myself excuses- ‘the system under which I labour leaves no space for genuine thought’
Or that-’The system affected my personality by encouraging me to develop a lazy attitude towards thinking.’
Or simply enough- ‘I don’t have time to think.’
I believe that it it time to get rid of those excuses and actually start trying.
It’s time to stop letting my mind rot. It’s time to start thinking.

Here’s my compromise: If she asks me about Ex, I’ll gladly tell the truth, the whole truth.

But if she doesn’t ask me, I will not begin a discussion that could contribute to her frustration with him. It’s her marriage—It’s her right to bring the subject up.

After our parental meeting tonight, I’m more concerned than ever that Ex’s new marriage is falling apart.

Part of what the new wife is upset about is his incurring debt and transferring it to her name, apparently because she’s more credit-worthy.

I’m worried about that. That is exactly what he did to me. Turned out he was secretly hiding money in bank accounts I didn’t know about. In other words, he was claiming he didn’t have the money to pay for critical things, so that I would scrimp and cut corners to pay joint expenses, while he used his money for playthings. I think I finally put it together when I realized I was buying all of the children’s clothing out of my small set-aside money for day-to-day expenses, whereas he’d used his income to buy a boat.

I am worried that this is a nice lady, getting scammed. My head tells me not to get involved. My heart says it’s wrong to let someone get hurt when you have information that might save them from financial ruin.

Clearly, she doesn’t know anything about his financial past. She just knows he’s getting in debt but putting it in her name. What she doesn’t know is that he probably has plenty of money in accounts she doesn’t know about.

What are the ethics here? I have enough of a relationship that I could probably tell her I was concerned about her comment about his debt loading on her, because of what happened to me. But I don’t know that that would be kind or helpful. I mistrust my motives.

I do have mutual friends, who might give her a hint—she knows they supported me during the divorce. But again, would that be kind? would it improve anything? would it protect her or just hasten a divorce?

This is worrisome. Normally, I don’t struggle a lot in an effort to know what the right thing is. Here, I literally don’t know.

think before I react.

What do you do when the world seems against you? When even your friends seem to not want you? Or need you in their life? Do you fall apart? Or do you just let it go?

Why do people try to make others change? And god forbid you do change then your still not good enough?

I did it. I sat down and thought.

With so many things happened and still taking place in my life i should sit down and think in order to tackle challenges thrown at me

I’ve thought. It was fun.

Goal complete.

not many people think anymore. its sad but people who dont think lose part of themselvs. i want to get that part back.