Be nicer to my partner

BUT if I catch myself being spiteful and selfish I will bring myself back. Today I managed it and reached out.

We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a
precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave
it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on
by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to
really look after it and nurture it….John Lennon.

comparing our relationship to the relationships of others BUT something about my sister makes me compare myself and our relationship with her and her’s.

I guess at least I am conscious that I am doing it and able to see the effect on my thinking and behaviour….whilst I was cleaning the kitchen(after she and C left) whilst sighing alot…..he asked “are you alright?” Of course I say in a high pitched voice…”yes! sniff! Fine!” Says he…”It’s just there is a lot of huffing and puffing going on!” “I’m just sighing!” I say while furiously scrubbing and i mutter under my breath after he leaves the kitchen and I hear shouts of joy at a goal scored from the sitting room.

Somehow I lost my sense of humour and ability to view him kindly when my sister visited!

Without being asked or as he may put it “nagged”.

I do like it when he takes the initiative for doing something that badly needs doing. Often I end up doing it myself – maybe that’s the idea…I think I read something once about men craftily leaving things until the woman does it or doing something so badly that she never asks him again! lol

I am sure women must do this too however….eg pretend helplessness re car breaking down or tyre needing changing!

Anyway – this is really appreciated today as i can now get to my bike and maybe get out on it more. lol

Now if only he could ride a bike then maybe he could come with me! ;)

this morning so that when he came home from work he did not feel taken for granted.

It would be nice to wash the dishes tonight instead of expecting him to do it!

One Art
The art of losing things isn’t hard to master;
so many things seem filled with the intent
to be lost that their loss is no distaster.

Lose something everyday. Accept the fluster
of lost door keys, the hour badly spent.
The art of losing isn’t hard to master.

Then practice losing further, losing faster:
places, and names, and where it was you meant
to travel. None of these will bring disaster.

I lost my mother’s watch. And look! my last or
next-to-last, of three loved houses went.
The art of losing isn’t hard to master.

I lost two cities, lovely ones. And, vaster,
some realms I owned, two rivers, a continent.
I miss them, but it wasn’t a distaster.

-Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture
i love) I shan’t have lied. It’s evident
the art of losing’s not too hard to master
thought it may look like (write it!) like distaster.

by Elizabeth Bisphop

I guess it doesn’t mean I stop caring but that the moments we are together are precious and the present moment is what counts. It takes the fear away somewhat and makes me cling on less!

I need to keep this goal here to remind me of how wonderful he is really!

I often forget how lucky I am and get dis-satisfied, expecting perfection!

It’s not that our relationship is second best or anything. We are having some issues but no relationship is totally perfect is it? He is human and so am I. I need to count my blessings and learn to appreciate him more.

now i need to rejuvinate our relationship. Maybe I will change this goal to something along these lines. When the weekend comes i will have another look at this.

So i have tried to be very nice to him today. I have seen another goal on someone else’s list about planning romantic surprises for their partner. I wonder if this may be a better idea to invigorate our relationship.

I think maybe i have achieved this goal. As it helps to have a reminder I will keep this here but try to notice and appreciate him more on a daily basis. I do take him for granted and keeping this goal here a while longer will remind me to show I love him more often.

a film together last night and have been laughing and feeling close a bit more. I suggested he maybe comes to a festival with me and he has not said he doesn’t want to which is really nice of him as it is not really his bag. Hey is it me being nice to him or the other way round? lol