This may seem like kind of a stupid entry, but yesterday I was given exacty what I needed.
I have been sick since Wednesday night/Thursday morning. Been in bed for two days, not eating because I felt nauseaous and frankly just not hungry. I had a low grade fever, but sweating like crazy. I just wanted to sleep. Mr HC kept offering to get me things and I just didn’t want anything. Thursday night he asked if I wanted #17 from Thai Rama (Tohm Yahm Gai – a Thai style, hot and sour chicken soup) I said no. I never say no to Thai Rama, but Thursday night I said no. He also said that I was somewhat incoherent (I have no idea, but that’s what he said)
So Friday morning he calls my friend Rob. Rob had been calling and texting me all day on Thursday (he was freaked out about Donna Summer passing away) and of course I had not responded to him. When Mr. Hc called him on Friday, he immediately asnwered the phone with “What’s wrong?” So they discuss my illness and when Mr HC says I turned down Thai Rama, they are both going crazy. Rob changed his schedule all around so he could come over and make me eat (He brought #17) I didn’t want him to come over. My house was dirty, I was a wreck, hair every which way, clammy and sweaty . . . real attractive. So there I was looking like a hag in a stinky (maybe not stinky, but definitely not clean) house.
When he got here, we sat down (I was actually feeling a little better) and he told me that Mr. HC was feeling scared and hysterical that I was sick. Mr. Hc is very guarded with his feelings. He has been ever since I have known him. He didn’t grow up in a very loving environment (whole other story) but as a result, he is very guarded with his emotions and expressing his emotions. He is one of those people where you know they care about you by the things they do and not necessarily the things they say.
Rob told me that Mr. HC is scared because he loves the hell out of me. “You have no idea how much this man loves you”
Mr. HC is all of that and a bag of chips. He could have had anyone when he married me, but he married me. He is tall, blond and handsome. Funny and fun, creative and oh so much more. I am not any of those things. I am serious when I say that there were women who were crushed when we got married.
So I am thinking all along that he loves me enough, but yesterday Rob tells me he loves me more than just enough. He loves the hell out of me. I really needed that. As stupid as that sounds, I just really needed that. 12 months ago