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add one piece, of one routine, at www.flylady.com, each month in 2006


 

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FairlyFearlessI can't honestly say I've given up, but I also can't honestly say "I've done this."

I love Flylady.

I was a member for maybe four years and my GOD it was helpful.

Early this year, I changed servers and suddenly my countless FL emails got trapped in the spam filter.

And it was kind of nice not to get them, because they could themselves get cluttery and guilt-making. So, tho I initially planned to resubscribe… I didn’t.

In the 12 Step groups they say, “Take what you need and leave the rest.” I honor Flylady tremendously and it really helped me in SIGNIFIGANT areas… housekeeping, procrastination and the power of small blocks of time, underlying attitudes of defeatism.

On the other hand, I could never quite get with the program fully. Control Zones and Control Journal never really worked for me, and I kept feeling guilty because I didn’t work ‘em. And guilt is really NOT Flylady.

So I am going to release this one for now, but with gratitude for all I received, and leaving option open for return or semi-return any old time. 8 years ago


FairlyFearlessI would say I've slightly backslid but that is SO not Flylady

... i.e., “there is no flywagon to fall off of… you are not behind, etc).

My bed is made, sink polished, and yes, kitchen floor swept DAILY. If I haven’t exactly added a routine… a drum roll please, big insight here… it’s because… i;M NOT PERFECT!!! What a concept.

Next thing you know I’ll be saying, “And I don’t need to be. And I am lovable anyway.”

Heavens!

Time to put on my lace-up shoes. (It’s only 11:19 a.m.) 8 years ago


FairlyFearlesstime to decide what the March piece will be

But I am in a very pissy mood so I’m just going to… PROCRASTINATE tonight! So there! (Sticks out her tongue at Flylady and everybody else and proclaims the power of negative thinking…It’s my mini-temper tantrum and I’m entitled to it!) 8 years ago


FairlyFearlesssweeping the kitchen now appears to be as non-negotiable as shining the sink

and… the checking appt book is really good. 8 years ago


FairlyFearlessHmmm... no, this month I'm going with ...

look over calendar and plan pre-bed each night. Receipts daily will be in March.

Still sticking with January floor-sweep. 8 years ago


FairlyFearlessThis month's new habit

assort receipts daily as first part of going-to-bed routine 8 years ago


FairlyFearlessAfter potato-cheese soup for 6 last night...

I stayed up and washed all the dishes. Even though it was after midnight before I got done, I swept the floor and felt mighty good about myself.

Of course, here it is early afternoon and I am not dressed “to the shoes” though I have otherwise completed morning routine.

Hmmm… a new month. What habit shall I add? Let me think about this. Serious contenders:

  • Go over calendar every night before bed
  • After 10, eat only fruit and/or stay off the computer… 8 years ago

FairlyFearlessFeeling crappy about myself this a.m. because for some reason

... I am procratsinating on my a.m. routine even though this one is usually a breeze for me, and I have already made the bed. But… still not dressed, etc etc.

SO, instead of feeling like a total degenerate lazy slug (there’s either/or, perfectionist thinking for you)I’ll complete it.

AND, I do know this: when I go downstairs for my ohhhh soooo late breakfast and vitamins and meds… the kitchen will be clean from last night, AND the floor swept.

All Process. But progress? Sort of. I guess.

Go make yourself feel better, FF! You are NOT behind! FLY! 8 years ago


FairlyFearlessCan it be???

I seem to just be automatically giving the floor a sweep after I do the Flylady shiny sink number. It’s amazing how little time and energy it takes, especially given how much I put itr off and then loathed myself for putting it off.

When it can be so easy, why do we make it hard? 8 years ago


FairlyFearlessthe piece I have added is

... sweep the kitchen floor every night after the siny sink thing. Let’s see if I can do this daily for the last two weeks of January. I did tonight! 8 years ago


FairlyFearlesseven though I went to bed late

(being self-employed, I can do that) “You are not behind… jump in where you are.” So, I did my routines when I got up, even though it was noonish.

Not being unreasonably hard on yourself / perfectionistic is such a piece of the process of FLYing. 9 years ago


FairlyFearlessDay three

So far, by keepijng the routines reeeeeally simple, I’ve stuck with ‘em. 9 years ago


FairlyFearlessday one, a.m.

Okay, so I did the evening routines last night at 4:00 a.m…. so I did the morning ones today at 11:00 ish… I did ‘em! “You are not behind,” says FL, “Jump in where you are.” Leap. 9 years ago


FairlyFearlessStop procrastinating on simple organizational routines, the doing of which always makes me feel more at peace in my life

The above is another way of stating this goal, or process (because “goal” implies that one can finish this kind of thing). I originally had it as a separate one of my 43 Things, but decided to cut the redundancy and make it one.

Flylady (acronoym: FLY is Finally Loiving Yourself) suggests that perfectionism keeps us from doing what we really want and need to do. Yes, that’s corect: that because we have so clear a vision of what “the right way” is to do something that it keeps us from doing it at all. Part cheerleader, part coach, part scold, she is full of tough and not-so-tough love in the form of suggestions about organizing our outer lives and homes in such a way that they both create and reflect inner peace and organization. She does this, in part, through the setting up of routines and the idea of “babysteps.”

Being exactly the type of perfectionist she nails so accurately, I tend to make things (that is, routines) more complex than they are, then get down on myself for not doing them.

So. By articulating this here I am hereby going to commit to my version of the most basic of the routines she suggests and note my progress here.

A.M. routine: Up, make bed, devotions (and/or yoga class), ablutions, dress “to the shoes” and get to where you look good to yourself, breakfast, am meds or vitamins.
NOTE: I am writing this at 1:22 p.m. Although my bed is made and I did have bfast and vitamins, I am still in PJs, have not had shoes on all day…

PM: bathe (if not done in a.m. ablutions), leave kitchen clean (esp with “shiny sink”, a Flylady keystone), check list for tomorrow, lay out clothes for tomorrow.

Let’s see how I do. Anybody out there want to FLY with me? 9 years ago


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