I dwell on things for a long time. Not rehashing things to others but inside. At first I won’t say anything because I don’t want to say something I don’t mean or I may be to angry at the time and it’s best to keep quiet. Depending on what the circumstances are I may bring it up after a ridiculous amount of time or when the offender appears to be taking advantage because I allowed the situation to continue in the first place.
Most often I seperate myself from the offender. I find that if the person that hurt me is the type that consistantly brings strife and discord to their surroundings then I must dismiss myself from the equation. I may forgive them, but I also realize that what they have done is part of their personality and they are not the type of person I want in my company.
Now, is this the correct thing to do? Who knows. Do I have less friends? Absolutely!!!! Does that small circle of friends bring joy to my life? Without a doubt!!!! There is comfort in knowing those I hold dear are sinsere, loyal, and respectful of those important elements that bring the happiness I seek.
