travel abroad alone

How I did it: I wasn't planning on traveling alone.  I thought I'd travel with my husband.  I got my passport-- and divorced instead.  Within three months, I was in London alone.  It was intimidating and scary the first time.  But since then, I've taken a number of trips alone.  Sometimes I meet up with friends living abroad-- so I'm not alone the whole time every time.  But even when I'm traveling with others I like to take off on my own for a bit.  It feels indulgent to do what I want to do--without consulting someone else!

Lessons & tips: 1. Get a sleep mask for the plane.  Unless you want to chat with your seatmate.  Single travelers are more approachable than a couple or group.  So if I don't want company, I slip my eyeshades down and relax, listen to my iPod, or take a Xanax and fall asleep!

2. A journal is nice.  Kind of cliche... but when you're traveling alone, there isn't anyone to share the highlights of the day.  I use the large-size moleskine sketchbook (5.25 x 8.25 inches).  The pages are nice and thick so I can attach things to the pages and the pocket in the back is a great place to keep notes and receipts.  Documenting trip highlights is a great way to relive the trip later--because when you travel alone, it's difficult to reminisce with someone about that great wine, you know?

3. A spa treatment.  I know this sounds lame, but after a long flight, checking into a hotel and getting a relaxing treatment is the best feeling in the world.  Also, it's an easy (albeit expensive) way to battle a case of loneliness.  Human touch is important-- so if I'm feeling unconnected, a massage or facial-- or even just getting my hair shampooed is a great way to reconnect with people, even when you don't speak the language.

4.  That book you've always wanted to read.  Treat yourself before you fly and buy a few books that you've always wanted to read.  You'll always own that copy of Pride and Prejudice--and you'll always remember that cafe/park/train where you finished it.

5.  Be Informed.  I'm all for last-minute decisions... but as a person traveling alone, know where you're going before you set out day.  Standing alone, looking at a map frustraded and confused--is NOT how you want to appear to strangers, even if they are friendly.  When you're looking at a map, you're not watching your surroundings.  Use that time after the meal but before the check arrives to double check your next route, memorize street names... so when you set out for your next destination-- you can walk confidently, alone.

Apr 13, 07:14PM PDT | 0 comments