Dear 43 Things Users,

10 years after introducing 43 Things to the world, we have decided we have met our last goal: completing the incredible experience that has been 43 Things. Please join us in giving one last cheer to all the folks who have shared their goals with the world, as well as all the people who have worked at The Robot Co-op to build this incredible website. We won a Webby Award, published a book, and brought happiness to a lot of people.

Starting today, 43 Things users can export their goals and entries from the site. Starting August 15, we will make the site “read only”. 43 Things users will still be able to view the site and export their content, but we won’t be taking any new content from users. We hope to leave the site up for folks to see and download their content until the end of the year. Ending on New Year’s Eve takes us full circle.

It has been a long ride (one of our original goals was to "build a company that lasts at least 2 years” - we beat that one!) While we wish the site could live on, it has suffered from a number of challenges - changes in how people use the site, the advertising industry, and how search engines view the site. We wish the outcome was different – but we’ve always been realistic about when our goals are met and when they aren't.

As of today, you will be able to download your goals and entries. See more about that on the FAQ page. Thanks for 10 great years of goal-setting and achieving.

- The Robots.

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He will try to suffocate you with kindness. He will recite every lie in the book. He will tell you he’ll be different. He has changed. I love you. I was only playing when I said so and so evilness to you. I didn’t mean it. Let’s get counseling. I love you. I promise to change. I’ll get better. Let’s get better. I wanted to love you the rest of my days.

The web will be sticky-sweet. You might get a leg or arm caught. But set yourself free. Keep your composure. You are better than this. You are worth more than a world of false promises…and broken hearts. 1 month ago

leanderleaves 3 months ago

leanderleaves25th day of "detox"

Still a long way to go. After a 3 day long crisis one week ago, I feel now more and more stable. There are now things to wait for in my life, and that helps a lot. 2 months ago

Wouldbecomet 2 months ago

leanderleaves5th day of "detox"

It seems to work. No more crying, no more pain in the stomach when I open my mailbox. No nostalgy, no fantasising. But still no interest in other people, bad taste in the mouth, a bit depressed.
I force myself to go and socialize + walk a lot + get my hair in order.
I feel freedom is close. 2 months ago

leanderleavesSecond big step

I discovered the similitude of my state and drog addiction.
Two days ago, I wrote him not to contact me anymore.
By doing that, I killed all hopes to meet him or to get together with him again.
It was like cutting off my own hand.
Today, it’s much better.
I think, it’s now, that I can start the real “detoxication”. 2 months ago

leanderleavesSecond step (not so big, but still...)

Yesterday, the N.1 rock band of my home country came to perform in a small culture house in my “job country”, giving a wonderful concert in front of some 200 fans, instead of the usual 2000. Before the concert, a nice compatriot came next to me and initiated a conversation. It made me feel… hmm… relieved. I thought, near 40, men won’t be interested in me or attracted to me any more. As it was his first time in L, today, I showed him the main tourist attractions in the city center. He was delighted (then went back home, hundred kilometers away) At least, not all my 60 000 daily thoughs turned around my ex, it opened some new perspectives. 2 months ago

leanderleavesOne big step, hopefully

This evening, I did my regular walk in the city center and listened to my old old favorite songs on my mp3 player. And of course, I was thinking of him, like almost every moment of the last four months.
With the music, old memories came back from university years, parties, friendships, pure energy, confidence, creativity of the young myself.
I felt cool.

And I told him in myself: my problem with you, was that I didn’t feel myself a cool person in your company. I felt clumsy, weak. You tried to paternalize, control, all your gifts you gave me were only about you, your ego, not about me or us. I could not be myself with you, or if I was, it wasn’t appreciated. I could not feel that I take part of our relationship, I had to ware a mask, which became very heavy at the end.

This inner conversation gave me relief. It’s been for an hour now, and since, I feel that I got rid of the pain.

I pray to be able to keep this state of mind. I’ve already lost too much energy for something that doesn’t worth so much. 3 months ago

Wamsmn 4 months ago


I don’t really think about him anymore. Although when I looked at his facebook today after a long time, I did have a little pinch in my heart and unease.. but I musn’t forget it’s only because I’m sorry for myself for the times I used to have with him. He did not love me. No where near as I loved him.. I ask myself why, why did I love him so much? He’s a douche. So what if he had a lot of friends? I guess that’s one of the reasons I loved him. Because he had cool friends. Other than that… meh, come on. It sounds that I was superficial. Well I still am, I care about having people in my life a lot. But now I’m in a better place, with a better boyfriend, a true man who acutally loves me for me. FUCK YEAH. 4 months ago

Aya 15 months ago

agri2014its hurts...

sometime we are responsible for our tears..but how to overcome it…y heart ask about him again and again….how to develop willpower to command mind and heart to stop and let him live smwhere and let me live to in my life… 5 months ago

agri2014 5 months ago

cupcakespecial 8 months ago

xmyheartuh oh.

some guys are hard to forget. shit. i guess it is a good thing for now that distance stands its long ground. 5 months ago

xmyheartthen again....

sometimes the insides don’t match the outsides…and the bad times outweigh the good…i won’t be a martyr my whole life. 7 months ago

xmyheart 7 months ago


Abeir89 4 years ago

lonnie2013 9 months ago

julianbaker09 3 years ago

julianbaker09It is possible

I did not think it was possible to get over, to forget, my first love. I pined away after him in my head and my heart for five years. And there was no need to. There was no need to keep him there because that blinded me from seeing the beauty of others. The possibility of others who could care about me. I never thought anyone would love me the way he did, that I would love anyone the way I loved him. But it is possible. Someone is there for you, believe that. Someone will connect with you. I just had to see it to believe it. And I regret holding onto that pain in my heart, not believing that there would be anyone else. I am so glad that I took the chance to get to know someone who erased the pain of five years, just with his caring for me and me caring about him. I just could not believe it. 10 months ago


gonna take some more time… but… so much better already. phew! 14 months ago

MaryaPetrovaI cant forget him

we’ve been together for 8 months .. i used to think that i’ve finally found the one that will never leave me and he ended up just like the rest and maybe even worse.. now he forgot me and its been two months if not more since we’ve last talked and 3 months since we broke up.. i miss him so much and i think about him all the time.. it feels like forever i swear and i know he’s not coming back i can’t talk to anyone about it because they will never understand how i’m feeling.. i don’t want to feel like this forever i want to forget him without those tears in my eyes .. :’) 19 months ago

MaryaPetrova 19 months ago

theemilyjones 2 years ago

julianbaker09not going to deny

I am not going to deny it anymore. Push it out anymore. Suppress it anymore. No I am not over it yet even though it has been four years. I let it destroy me. But after a talk with my family last night, I think I could be on my way to doing better. They suggested that I write down everything that still hurts and why. 2 years ago


I got a mail from D this morning. He is still traveling a lot and having a blast in life. He told me he has no plan coming back to Asia in the near future but I don’t feel bad anymore. The mail made my day and I’m truly happy for him. Strange that you used to want someone so much but find yourself don’t need them anymore.

But he is and will always be my rock star <3 2 years ago

user26005 2 years ago

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