Get divorced without paying for it myself!
3 hours ago
I want him to pay, I paid for the last two divorces. So, I’ve been married three times, yeah, third time’s a charm, I’ve learned my lesson.
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It made me
Ecstatic!
 "OMG FINALLY!"
How I did it: Finally rid of my abuser after two long years of being separated. I have full custody of my daughter, child support, alimony and best of all the ability to decide whether or not he sees my daughter... and after everything that he has done - the physical and emotional abuse on me and my older daughter he will NEVER see my daughter. |
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Missing_Germany is chilling
It made me
independent
How I did it: Well, really I didn't do it at first. My ex out of the blue called me on my vacation with my family and told me not to come back home. It's like someone pulled the rug out from under me. Possibly the worst weeks of my life followed. But then one day I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and moved into my first own apartment. It was actually an exciting day. I'm so glad now years later that I'm not with this man anymore, he did me a h… Read how I did it…
It made me
pretty darn happy
How I did it: I might not be of much help, but I'll try. In NJ you have to be separated for six months before you're able to file for divorce. My ex-husband had a friend who's a lawyer and put him in touch with a divorce lawyer at his firm. Since the split was amicable, we had no children, and no assets to fight over, all we had to do was sign the forms the lawyer gave us, show up for our court date, and that was all she wrote. … Read how I did it…
It made me
sad, but nessasary 
How I did it: Josh and I were married for 5 yrs. we have three beautiful kids and that is the best I can say about that. things got very ugly with us, it was a controlling manipulitive screaming, dirty, scary place to be. Once I decided that was a step that needed to be taken, shortly after my son had to stand up fo rme mid fight, I took the steps in a manner that was not selfish, was not spiteful. I wated a year to do this because it ga… Read how I did it…
cazamajag Working ...hee ... hee :)
It made me
Smile
How I did it: Try to remain on good terms with your ex (only if that is possible) If he’s violent obviously that won’t work. Allow time for information to sink in (that it’s over) that took 2 years! Once he was out I found a solicitor and started my proceedings. 2 years down the line I asked him to sign… the divorce papers he said no.. I only had 6 months to wait for the Decree Absolute :) Patience... Time really does fly by! Read how I did it…
It made me
Mixed blessing
How I did it: Getting an attorney was worth it for me b/c I was so easily emotionally manipulated by my ex. When you love your kids, it makes you susceptible to guilt tripping. Read how I did it…
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Weaverr is getting on with uni work
about time
4 days ago
Been seperated for 7 years now, I will get a solicitor and get things moving in the new year. I want that man out of my life for good.
Mike is enjoying the fall.
meeting
3 months ago
The meeting with the lawyers has been scheduled for the end of August. I hope it goes well and this goal can be completed.
Untitled
4 months ago
SOMETIMES WHEN YOU ARE NOT MADE OF MONEY YOU CAN’T DO ALL THE THINGS YOU WANT TO DO. IF ANYONE WOULD LIKE TO LOAN ME A FEW THOUSAND DOLLARS, THAT WOULD BE NICE.
Untitled
7 months ago
i was married for 25 years. My husband was never cruel or unfaithful. I just got married far to young and we grew apart… I fell in love with someone else. It still hurts how much sorrow i have caused my family all the deceipt. But I am sure that my husband, who has a new partner is now much happier…. I am very happy.Our three children have had a very tough time, but they are now stronger and say that they can see we ( my x and I ) are happier.
Mere is getting reflective
It is over. Judge pronunced me- Divorced...
7 months ago
Yippee.. Amazingly, it took just three hearings and just under 9 months( It felt like a really long time).
What to say – Thrilled. Beamed at the judge. :D Was literally dancing with relief and hapiness.
suger9100 Being me as best as I can
Oh God
8 months ago
Either this man is insane and a true stalker but god, he just wont quit and leave me be. How many times do I have to tell him, its over, there is no going back. Ya fucked up. God Damn! I am so tired of this stressful situation, sometimes I feel so lost I have no emotions or thoughts, my body is life less. He is so random and conniving. He sends random letters, notes and now he wants to kill me. I mean what’s new? He has tried every thing and still. Ok yeah I know he is a human being and what not, but somewhere out there I gave up caring about someone’s feeling and Image who does not do the same for me. The Happiness was never there, always Sarah, everything Sarah. I mean if he does not understand- Fuck Him. I am no longer going to feel bad for this person or his family. I am over it and need him to fucking understand…
suger9100 Being me as best as I can
Well its done.
8 months ago
Wow, that was kind of somewhat fast. The divorce. I was feeling guilty yesterday, thinking was that the right decision in life. I hurt someone and so on and can you believe I actually cried. All my emotions were mixed up and such. But I realized that I was so unhappy with that person and no matter what I did or tried I was unhappy. I know it would have lead to cheating and scandals if I stood in that marriage. I feel somewhat free and airy. I just hope he moves on and is happy in his life as I am in mine.
finally found my husband!
9 months ago
We separated on friendly terms in 2000, and finally, through a great deal of persistence (and online search engines) I tracked him down last summer! We talked for the first time in years ~ he’s doing very well, as am I. So… we are getting divorced when we get around to it; it’s more expensive than we had expected!
More to come later…...
This is a question of survival...
10 months ago
I used to have a goal entitled “help my husband stop drinking alcohol” which really says it all and which I have given up on. Alcoholics are totally selfish, liars, unworthy of trust and pretty hard to have any respect for. I have done absoutely everything I can to help him only to come to the conclusion that really, there’s nothing I can do for him. As long as his life is easier with alcohol than without it why would he stop?
I have exhausted myself emotionally and physically and feel on the verge of depression. I am getting divorced to save myself and my children who, I am sorry to say have been obliged to witness his debauchery and deprevation. NO MORE !! I have a meeting with a lawyer on wednesday.
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