what do people even mean when they call someone a friend?
is it someone they’ve known long enough to trust?
is it someone they feel comfortable around?
is it someone who always approves of your decisions (or lack thereof) and acts supportive regardless of what you do?
is it just someone who still remembers your name?..
i believe that friendship is about sharing and brainstorming and learning things together (from life and from each other); about being a team. about information as well as about emotion
there, i said it. information. friends have to have things they want to talk about, other than their daily routines of boredom and frustration. friends are people you want to do things with. when somebody tells me, ‘hey, let’s write/translate/do this together’ is when i feel genuinely wanted and loved
after a certain insight, communication is no longer about raw attention. it’s about a common purpose. it’s something most online contacts totally lack. it’s why you strike up a conversation with someone, and the next day you’re both out of things to say. there’s nothing that really connects you. and by ‘really’, i mean, ‘REALLY’. tangibly. outside your skull 5 months ago