help my boyfriend quit smoking

I don’t think this will happen until we move in together and he’s forced to quit. Right now he says he’s just too stressed out with school to even contemplate quiting. He feels really bad and wants to stop, but he just doesn’t have enough will power to do it.

He wrote really cute things on his cigarette pack like, “unhealthy. think of shelly. children. YOU CAN DO THIS. disappointment” and other little things to help motivate him to stop smoking. I give him an A for effort because he is really trying, but I can’t wait for the day when he’s a non-smoker.

He decided to quit yesterday. I want him to quit because he wants to quit, but he says it’s a mixture of wanting to quit for his health, wanting to make me happy and his future. That’s enough of a reason for me.

He was really irritable last night and mean, but today he was just being silly and anxious.

I just need to tell myself to be understanding when he does things that aren’t in his norm because I realize he’s going through a lot right now with withdrawals. I also don’t want to be overly critical if he slips up and has one cigarette. I realize that kicking an addiction is no easy feat.

i did my best, it’s all on him though.

usually we do this thing where I bug him… “Jason, just skip this one,” “Jason, just smoke half of it and smoke the rest tomorrow,” et cetera… and that wasn’t really helpful, because he wasn’t making a particular effort on his own, though he’s said over and over that he wants me to help him quit.
But lately he’s been really good about it, cutting (way) down to two yesterday and one today. While I admire his newfound dedication, nicotine depravation makes him hard to deal with. he’s tense, irritable, depressed… I keep having to stop myself from saying, “Jason, please, please smoke a cigarette.”