I am energetically vibrating and fully alive and living! Courage is not the absence of fear, but it is the ability to act even when you are afraid. The only way to overcome your fear is to face them. Desensitize yourself systematically. Take little steps and prove that fear itself is worse than the result that comes from faceing them. It is quite the opposite. There is so much freedom gained when you let go of fear! I am no longer a paralyzed prisoner of my fears. I am free! 4 months ago

The fear of failing at surviving on my own. I have never been completely independent. Even when I was in the military they still took care of me. I want to be confident and take care of myself. I don’t want to depend on anyone but myself. I need employment. I need money. I need a job! I so hope I get a callback or interview soon. I know my resume is less than impressive but my work performance is not! I just need someone to give me a chance to prove my worth. 5 months ago

I have so many phobias that really do stand in my way. Though some are more intense than others, they all keep me from living the fulfilling life that I know I could. I won’t get into all of them right now, but my goal is to overcome each one, one at a time and finally live with a little less unnecessary stress. 5 months ago

I actually made it a goal to push my personal envelope. Any time I came up against something that made me hesitate, as long as it was not life-threatening for myself or someone else, I forced myself to do it. As a result I am light years happier and far more willing to give things out in the world a try, even if I’m not sure what the outcome is going to be. 6 months ago

After about a month of hemming and hawing, I finally sat down, pulled out my Hello Kitty sewing machine, and put together a skirt. Total time from cutting pieces to wearing finished object? Probably 3-4 hours. Not bad at all, especially since the fabric was maybe $20 total. I now have a totally unique skirt for half of what I’ve paid for most of the skirts I already own. AND I know how it was constructed, so I can go back and adjust it later on as I lose weight or decide I don’t want to wear a rectangle on my hips anymore. :)

I’ll be far less scared about tackling the next project for certain, now that I know the sewing machine doesn’t bite and has manageable quirks. I’m actually really excited to do this! 10 months ago

Your words cut to the bone. I try to ignore try to diffuse but you continue to insult, threaten, and scream at me. No one deserves you. I do not make you act the way you do… you were you long before we ever met. You claim you treat me better than you treated your previous wives and feel this should make me feel better about the way I am treated???
I am not fat, I am not evil, I am not worthless and lazy, I am not cheating on you or looking for another relationship. I doubt I ever trust enough again to have another relationship after you
I am worthy of love and respect, I deserve to be treated with. kindness, I should be able to speak to whoever I wish, I deserve to receive gifts on special days (birthday, Valentine’s, Christmas… or even just because.) I am special, kind, and a good person. I treat others how I wish to be treated. I take care of the children and all the chores. I am not what you say I am. There is a good reason why you have been divorced twice already. I will find a way our. I won’t be trapped here forever. 13 months ago

The first step to overcoming my fears is to know what they are. I must make a list of all and work towards overcoming them.

•fear of uncontrollable little ones in public
°I have been taking my girls out more often on my own. They are two and one. Violet ,my two year old, is a bit of a monster sometimes. :) The only way to get over my fear is to keep taking them out in public and prove to myself I can keep them safe and well behaved.

•fear of rejection
°I always feel like others dislike me and it keeps me from speaking much to people. I would really like to find a like minded friend nearby. In order to do this I must be able to speak to people in social settings and ignore the thoughts of negativity.

•fear of K
°No one can control you without your consent. 13 months ago

Such as fear of the opposite sex, fear of committment and I’m less freaked out by slugs than I used to be. I haven’t conquered ALL my fears but I’ve conquered enough to reach a place I’m happy with currently. The others, WATCH THIS SPACE =) 16 months ago

And it scared the shit out of me to do it. I used materials i’d never touched before, paper I’d never worked with (Bristol) and used techniques I’d never even heard of. But she was there in my head begging to get out, being as compelling as anything with her eyes and I HAD to do it. I was terrified with each pencil strokes I laid down to create her, then with each ink dab and line…. but when I was done she was there on the paper exactly as I pictured. I was shocked. And then I realized there is no pain in not doing something perfectly,especially in art. They make more paper. You can get more graphite or more ink… so from here on out there is no excuse not to just F* DO IT.
And suddenly I feel freer in that knowledge. 22 months ago

I’m really shy. I recently joined a band (long story). Only been for one rehearsal but it feels great to be accepted as part of the group. I know this will help me face my fear of public speaking in this case singing. I have been giving presentations for school ever so often this year too and that has been challenging. I keep getting thrown into the spotlight but I guess it’s for the best. 1 year ago