not have kids

I’m not pregnant and I don’t have any kids.

Yeah I don’t think I should have kids. Why make more of something there shouldn’t be more of? Trust me I’m doing the world a favour. The only reason I would have kids is if I was performing a public service by making replicas of myself. I wouldn’t be able to handle a sick child either. Ther’s always a chance that your child will have something wrong with it.

“If you can’t deal with a lop-sided loaf, don’t put a bun in the oven!”

I don’t think that I am that great/compassionate of a person to be able to handle a child with learning disabilities, depression, deformities and the like. I am afraid I would regret having a child if something was wrong with it either at birth or later in life. No one can promise you a “normal” child for life and that scares the hell out of me!

Enough said.

;)

I’ve never liked sprogs, but if I did I still don’t think I’d want any. There’s so much to do; I don’t have enough time as it is and I can’t imagine giving up a few decades to go through childhood again from a different perspective.

I understand…well not so much understand as accept…that some folks feel incomplete without mini mees and that’s all well and good…for them. It’s the biggest decision you’ll ever make, so make it yourself.

I have a very good reason to not have kids even more than I didn’t want them in the first place now. My partner has inherited a rare genetic disease that could be passed on to any child he has, with a 50:50 risk rate. That coupled with the fact that we have no biological urge to have children and have never wanted them and just want to spend our lives as two of us, is a good reason not to have them.

He’ll be getting a vesectomy next year and that’s when I’ll end this goal as completed!

I am sick of hearing about the biological imperative. Yeah, I got great genes. But, frankly, I want to do bigger things than shoot for immortality through some miniature version of my wife and I. Wife is with me on this.

Deep down, I am afraid. I see the way people get when they have kids. And I don’t want to be like that. I want to have edge. I want to stay killer. I want to be able to go to an adult movie and only pay for two tickets and a diet coke. No babysitter. No third seat (my parents solution… I saw Reds when I was 8). I love movies. I love all kinds of movies. But most of the movies I hate have been kids movies. I’m guessing that having a kid and loving movies means getting an appreciation for Disneyana. No thanks.

Why in the world would I want to have kids??? First of all, the world is clearly coming to an end for humans. Second of all, I want to spend my cash on me. And Third, kids drive me crazy and I can’t even stand myself!!!! .....at times. haha.

I’m not having kids.

Period.

Most days I think I know what I want. I’m pretty sure I don’t want to have kids. But my husband and my family keep asking me how can I be sure that will be what I want in 10 years? I feel like if I haven’t wanted them up until this point (being 25 and all), then what could magically happen in 10 more years? But until I know I am 100% concretely, absolutely, tubal ligationally sure, I better give this one up.

35 and no kids yet…. doing well on this goal! ;-)