stop being so paranoid

ok so me and my girlfriend have been dating for nearly a month now.and i love her with everything i have.we live in diffrent states and lately she has been acting diff towards me.and i talked to her about it.i told her it feels like shes slipping away.and shes just confussing me and im haveing a hard time to trust her, i need help!

I am always thinking people are talking about me. I think there is always someone watching me. I like to write and I think someone is always reading it when I am gone. I need to stop its not healthy.

Am a very paranoid person ,But the whole idea of being paranoid is that you can’t stop thinking abt things that haven’t even happened !!
am going to college this year and am always thinking that my Boy Friend is going to leave me for another new gurl, and that scares me to death cause honestly he’s the best thing in my life right now and i’ve never felt this way before abt any1 PLUS !! he’s been traviling these past couple of weeks and i havent been able to see him at all …. and i’ve been bitching and fighting abt the stupidest of things with him just cause i think he doesnt care abt me anymore ..he keeps saying “I STILL FEEL THE SAME WAY I FELT WHEN I MET YOU” or when i ask him r u going to leave me ?he’s like “I wont leave you no matter wat you did and how crazy you are i wont leave you , even if you wanna leave me i wont leave you =D” i must admit that way kinda sweet but he still acts werid and i feel there’s sthg wrong, i still dnt belive him because of my paranoid head of mine , wat should i do ?? and do you think he wants to leave me and he’s just saying that …. =s

I’m not as bad as i was, but i will always be a naturally paranoid person. It’s just the way i am lol.

Well the reason why i think he’s cheating is because of the way he act towards me he treat me right but sometimes he do stuff that hurts my feelings. What can i do to stop thinking he;s cheating.

I stopped being paranoid, just for a little while.

But then… I had those doubts again. Paranoia invaded my system constantly. And it had every reason to…

He was cheating on me.

I worry and get paranoid about all kinds of stuff and I CAN’T STAND IT!!! What other people think about me, someone will kidnap, hurt ar kill my kids, someone will break into my house, i’m going to die of something new every other day, people are talking about me, i’m a terrible mother, etc, etc…i could go on and on…..and on. I hate being like this! It stops me from doing so much in life and i need to control it somehow. I’ve been like this for my whole life so far and it’s exhausting, you know? And I can’t “just relax” like people who don’t understand suggest.

I screwed up my relationship with my 2nd serious boyfriend of 2 years by cheating on him about a dozen and more times, I do regret what I did but put it down to paranoia and believe it was to try and protect my feelings , my first serious boyfriend at 15 cheated on my 4 times.

I found cheating on this boyfriend didn’t help and realised my mistake i believed I loved this guy ( I thought I did but now I’m not so sure, because would i have cheated on him if I loved him?)through guilt i finished things with him (he never found out of my goings on). I am now 20,in a new relationship and still paranoid (but not cheating and no intentions because I know that cheating doesn’t help it makes thing worse), I know deep down theres no need to be paranoid in this relationship like there wasnt in the last but my paranoia seems to say otherwise, I wish there was a solution to stopping it,

I need suggestions because I’m so tired of paranoia, its constant!

My girlfriend is wonderful, i am paranoid she is seeing someone else,(She only goes away every so often). however when i think about what we are going to do next year, and other things we are planning i can’t see why sh would betray me and i am just being stoopid (like a boy so throw rocks at me) i absolutely adore the ground she walks on and i so want to stop! i need to stop this as i know as it is me as it always happens when i go out with someone… and to lose her would be to like lose part of me! it is self confidence when she is not around… i am having a fairly successful life, a good job, but stress as someone else looks after my kids and he does nothing but put me down and wants to keep me out of their life…. how do i stop? i need confidence… and trust but i forget how i get that back to me?! although paranoia protects you, i don’t think it does as it is so destructive you need to reach out to someone sometime…
mine has destroyed my life so far i need to get rid of it and take a leap of faith!

Being paranoid is a good thing! It protects you and keeps your senses aware, doesnt leave you open for soo much hurt and disgust, or am i just being paranoid?