stop thinking about "him"

the last guy i dated was my best friend. thats what relationships are suppost to be, they are your best friend. AND thats cool but when that relationship ends, you cant forget you do loose your best friend and thats something you dont get over in a couple days. so our breakup was probably one of the most confusing that even i can barely explain. we just slowly started fading after a silly fight after i wouldnt go to a razorback game with him because we had been arguing lately and i just thought we needed some time. from then on we started talking more on the phone then actually being around each other. the feeling was still there and we didnt talk differently too each other. we were talking one night and it was just a mutual breakup really over nothing where im sure neither one of us thought it would actually be OVER but it was and it only got worse and harder to deal with because it was just unexpected and it was one of those you dont realize what you have till you loose it. before we had started dating he had gotten in trouble for drinking and stuff and during our relationship he didnt ever want to do those things and i was at the point to where i did. i would always invite him and beg him to go with me but he would just stay at home while i would go to parties. now i look back and know i should have thought more about his feelings but at the same time he had gotten to do all that ..we were the same age..but he just expericed it all before me. so after our wierd breakup that neither one of us really got. i still took it as a no big deal thing and would try talking to him and his friends at this point wanted him single so they could be boys i guess. and this is when he started changing. we talked about once a month from then on randomly just wondering about each other i guess and this is really the first time i let myself be sad over a boy and it KILLED ME!! we had dated my sophmore and junior year and broke up the month of november my junior year. at the beginning of my senior year we decided to try again but he had changed so much as in doing things he use too be too good to do and more. so i felt like the trust wasnt there anymore. he said that we had both matured so it would work. but in reality i think i had gotten out of the party stage when he had just got back in it. after all those times of missing him and thinking about him EVERYSINGLE DAY like i still do know [that i hate] i told him we probably shouldnt only because when we did try again i expected a cute date or where we like started over something i dont know..i mean it had been a whileeee and we had a lot of catching up too do…the same feeling was there and we were back to best friends again but i was confused..i guess i expected him to chase me after saying that..but he still texted me everyday and we did that for a long time but i eventually told him we couldnt do that if we wanted to mvoce on..i told him he should get a girlfriend bc deep down i knew if he had a girlfriend i would be less likelky too ever want him again,, wierd i know but thats how i felt….and so he took that as me saying he was such a bad guy for the things he had been doing then and we stopped talking. i recently had my graduation and looked over in the crowd to my left and we both made eye contact and even tho we ended whatever taht last thing was on good terms i had hard feelings and i dont know if its because i sitll to this day can not stop thinking of him..not in a i miss him like want to be with him way..but in a i miss what we had so much and i cant feel that with anyone else…way you know. i deleted his girlfriend now off my facebook and him because i just didnt want too be tempted too look at their pics together even tho there wasnt any yet and she took it as i was upset they were together bc me and her were friends but the truth is she is a nice girl and apologized ifshe hurt me and that wasnt it….i just dont know what i wantttttt uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i just cant wait till the day i find the next boy that stops me from thinking of this guy every single day!!!!

I get really depressed when I’m not thinking about him. And I wonder why I’m depressed and I realise it’s cuz I’m not thinking about him! Agh! It’s a vicious circle!!

We dated for a year and a half, off and on. We were young, and I knew we both weren’t ready for the diehard relationship we were trying to create. But he told me he loved me. I told him I loved him. What lies. We were vain and trying to fit the mold that society had created for us.
Anyway, the real love came after we broke up for the last time. He became my best friend. All the young awkwardness was gone, and what emerged was pure friendship. But with that friendship came a deeper, unrequited love that I cannot forget until this day. At that time I can honestly say I loved him more deeply than I have ever loved another human. And I knew he felt the same.
But we were content with our friendship, living harmoniously and happily side by side until we were ready to take that next step. How strange and stupid was I. The next year, my love was painfully stripped from the deepest crack in my heart! Our love had grown so strong for one another that we found it hard to properly communicate on a friendship level. And we grew apart, he stopped talking to me, and I to him. I LOVED HIM SO DEARLY!!
I have tried talking to him since, with little or no flicker of remembrance on his part. I have dated other guys, done many interesting things. I actually did forget about him.
But now we have a class together, and everything little memory has come flooding back into places that were so long left empty. I love him. God damnit I’ll love him to the end of time.
But I want to forget him. I cannot bear the pain of truth. If I confess my undying love for him now, who knows if he still feels the same way as he did so long ago? But how can he forget?

It has been a while since logging on here- new “him” that my heart is hurting over but reading this helped…

I had a crush on this guy for over a year. He’s cute, smart, interesting… except that he wasnt’ into me at all. He would be super-nice to me one day, and then ignore me for 2 weeks. It was painful. How did I stop thinking about him?

Well, many of you are on the right track! The trick seems to be not to contact that person, and to keep yourself busy with other things… eventually you’ll be thinking about your work/studies, your hobbies, that movie you just saw, your friends, etc. Preferably stay away from places where you might run into him, and talk to lots of other people! Also – have patience; it will likely take a few weeks, but you’ll be happy in the end :)

I read somewhere that the best way to get over a guy is make him non-existent to me. I don’t know how I will do this, but I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me!

my ex of 9 months all i o is think or talk bout him :/

I am doing the goal no conact with my ex for 60days, I think this goal would help me achieve the later. If i stop thinking about him i wont contact him.

when i meet someone new, even if i only met them for a little while and dont know them at all, i start thinking about them (not everyone – just the ones i think are cute) i kinda imagine what it would be like to date them etc etc. its pathetic but i seem to do it with everyone and its not harming anyone apart from maybe me (getting my hopes up) i think i’ll give up. but its alright x

just started doing this… and man its hard! and now he fancies my friend..and she him… this is just too gr8… but maybe it helps me to get over him, i just hope he and I will be friends again..