come out to my parents

My mother’s last words before leaving home for the Navy were “Stay away from Gay people.” Both my parents had been marines, so there were few illusions about what the military would be like. (Granted, my mother had been in during the 70s, so things were a little different then.) She never said whether she feared I might be hurt by those who want to bash queers, or whether she figured that queers were just a bad influence.

At any rate, I didn’t have to heed her advice, as there were no queers to be found. As I am transgendered, however, I suppose my parents can be thankful that at least I like men? In some weird twist of fate, anyway. (FtMs can get pregnant now, so they can nurse that hope, although it will never happen with me.)

I haven’t talked to them in about five years now, and have wrestled with the idea of coming out to them for a long time. The main reason I haven’t is that my biological mother is dying. I don’t want to cause any jabs, and I’m not doing this just to say, “HAH. This thing that you don’t like and maybe feared is true!” I would rather heal things, or at least tell them, “I’m alive, I’m okay, and unless you really want to make up, we’re done.” Closure for all of us is what I’m hoping for. Not that I think it will happen.

kk so i only just really accepted im gay and only like 3 of my friends know and i dont know how to tell my parents cause i mean my mom might be okay but im really worried about my dad cause he already dosent like the way i dress or my hai so im wondering whats going to happen when i tell him im gay

I came out to Jenn today.
Who is my almost sister-in-law.
She is engaged to my brother.
Anyways I totally adore and trust her
And she was super supportive.
:)
But not quite my parents… or my brother. I should change this “to my family”

I do. I am bisexual. I am female. I am only twelve though. I now that this is legit. I am for real. I hope they get that it is not a phase. Please help me. Im just waiting for the right time, you know? I have accepted myself. I just want them to. Please help me.
Much love,
Carson

I am so excited about coming out to my parents actually. I know that they will except me for who I am since there are many other gays in my family. I think I just want to wait though until Im older so that they maybe understand more, and so I dont have to worry about any conflicts since I am living with them. Ill be sure to tell them once I move out though :D

i really want to tell my parents that im gay but its really hard i feel like im living a two different lives i know my mom wouldnt care but my dad is against being gay and he already hates me and i dont want to make it worse than it already is help!

Well, my dad’s a wife-beating homophobic alcoholic bastard, and my mum’s a self-centered stubborn religious maniac who hates me.

Hmmm- this will be easy! [/sarcasm]

I’m going to wait until I’m in my early to mid twenties before telling them- because they don’t really need to know now…do they?

Not to mention they don’t even deserve me to explain to them. But I will.

I have my reminder set to remind me every year, lol. Just so I don’t chicken out in a few years the reminder says ‘You said a few years ago you would tell at age 24 or so no matter what. This is your past self assuring you to do it! I know what I’m talking about! DO IT! Love, your past self.’

lol.

I don’t know why I waited so long to do it. It wasn’t a big deal after all. It all started with this rough patch I had with my gf and because we’re in a LDR, things were rough and my college datelines weren’t helping at all. My mom happened to be visiting me and she caught me crying in my room. When I finally told her, she confessed that she knew about it some time ago but had given me a benefit of a doubt. But she was alright and even said that my life was my own and she was going to be supportive as long as I was happy. She was even tried to cheer me up by going shopping with me. I’m not really the shopping type but I just thought it was sweet of her. Plus, later I asked my Dad if my Mom had told him anything; to which he replied that he knew before my Mom did. I couldn’t help but laughed and it made me wonder what the hell have I been so worried about in the first place? Anyway, for everybody reading this, thanks for your cheers and support. For everyone whose planning to come out, I think it’s all about timing. It’s good to come out to your parents but I doubt all parents are as accepting as mine(to which I’m grateful for), but for what it’s worth; it’ll save you a lot of heartache and suffering. Do it when you’re ready and when you think your parents are ready to listen to you as an adult and respect your decision. Arguing about it isn’t going to help except strain relationships. Everyone’s expectation of their kids or parents is different, so be patient at all costs. Rome was never built in a day.

Everyone else knows. I know my parents’d be cool with it…but we dont talk about sex. I hate the idea of discussing it with them. TBH I think they might know already because I took my exgirlfriend home, as a friend, and she looked very much like a lesbian… you know what I mean. Anyway. Yeah. I need to do this properly at some point.

Coming out to my parents was like the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. Watching my mom cry was really really hard and I hated to break her heart like that. My dad took it pretty well though. I came out to the rest of my family before my parents. I did it so I would get more support incase they didn’t take it the right way.