be kind to my parents

..I mark this done. One of those life-long things, I believe. But I don’t have to keep this goal anymore. It is as natural as breathing.

My mom beat me to it, she and Dad went out and bought a new sofa set without me knowing.

So I decided to contribute half of the cost for a new TV. We picked it up last week – a 42 inch LCD TV. Am so glad I did this. And our new family hall looks gorgeous thanks to the curtains my mum sewed herself. :)

..for my parents. I plan to get this for our new family hall. We did some renovations and finally completed the work for this hall which was left undone due to some (much delayed) paper work.

My parents have been working hard sewing curtains (my mum sewed, my dad ironed the materials) for this new hall. It looks fabulous and I’m really proud of what they’ve accomplished together.

Gonna sort out my bills for this month then see what I have left for the sofa set. Think I can opt for some kind of interest-free payment scheme. I know it’ll add on to my (necessary evil) Visa bill. Still, it’s a minor thing compared to what my parents have done for me.

My dad and I went to Tesco to grab our weekly groceries. Had coffee after that, then he needed to go to the hardware store. When we got there it was full, seems like everyone needs DIY stuff on this particular Saturday afternoon.

Took a while to finish our purchases, and even longer to stuff what we bought into the car. It was tricky coz he bought this thing for our gutters which was 13 feet long. But he insisted on bringing it home ourselves. We finally managed, though I suspected we were breaking a few laws since the gutter thing was jutting out of the back trunk (luckily we drove his CRV, else it was impossible!).

We were headed home when he realized he forgot something. So I had to make a turn, but not before I took a wrong turning into the hospital compound. No biggie, I said.. though we were already getting on each other’s nerves.

We got back to the store eventually. He got what he needed in the end. Think he was glad he remembered, and I’m glad I shut my mouth and stayed calm despite this. When we got home, we had tea and talked about stuff in the news while I scanned the job ads, asking for his comments and stuff.

Actually my dad just came back from an outstation trip. He was gone for about four days. So it felt good to be able to spend time with him just talking and enjoying each other’s company.

Giving up on this one. My parents have recently shown themselves to be not very kind people and there is not much hope for our relationship. I’m going to stop focusing so much energy on people who don’t put the same effort into it.

The kinder you are to them, the kinder you’ll be. It’s a two-sided thing. Sometimes its hard to be kind when you want to push them away or are so annoyed with them, on the otehr hand, it really creates something. I’ve thought about taking advantage of my parents because they are so sweet to me and love me so much, but I just don’t have the heart to do that.

It’s been quite impossible lately for us to just chill and talk. I have some relatives staying over and guess we’re both busy fussing over them and such. But today we both went to this wedding reception (my dad’s cousin whose son got married) and on the way back we talked about stuff. Now I know why he was quite upset the other night (and how I’m about to smack my brother for being such an insensitive git). That’s my dad.. he doesn’t say much when he’s worried about something, so when he finally talk about these things, I know the worse is over.

and it took everything I had not to cry there and then. The TV ad was created by Petronas for the upcoming Eid celebration. In case one didn’t know, Eid comes afer a month of fasting in the holy month of Ramadhan. It signifies the victory of completing the fasting ritual and typically families would convene for gatherings and seek forgiveness from one another.

This TV ad reminded me of this goal, and echoes my realization that one day my parents will depend on me just like I depended on them when I was growing up. I promise I won’t let them down.

If you will, do check out the online version. Although the dialogue is in the Malay language, there’s English subtitles.

I had “respect my parents” up here but being kind is something that I can actually steer and controll and actively pursue; and I feel that I’ve been doing this over the past months, even if it’s hard sometimes.

He mentioned it last week when we were shopping for stuff at Tesco. But after coffee, we rushed to my aunt’s place and forgot all about it. Must remember to get some this week. Chocolate cake would be nice, the thick, gooey dark chocolatey kind. Yum! And he deserves the best kind there is for being my hero in the recent Ruby Blue drama. Three cheers for my dad and all awesome dads everywhere!! :)