Loi13
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How I did it: Self-pity is an excuse to not act, and also a mental activity. Thus, by doing something (anything, but better if it's related to your problem) you'll come out of your head and stop pitying yourself.
For example, I would say to myself, "I always attract emotionally distant friends because I had bad relationships with my parents". So, I stopped talking with my emotionally distant friends, and began talking more with people who paid attention to me.
There was truth to my complaint, *but* notice that that's the past, and that my parents aren't holding a gun to my head and making me choose unattentive friends.
Read how I did it… 3 years ago
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When I think about it, self-pity is just an excuse for not acting.
For example, I’ll think, “I don’t have many friends because all my clothes come from goodwill and no one wants to befriend a poor person.” Of course, this thought ignores the facts that (1) I could go and buy better clothes, (2) obviously some people do want to befriend a poor person; otherwise, I would have no friends, and (3) some people who wear clothes from goodwill have a ton of friends (I haven’t met them but they must exist).
The idea is, rather than figuring out the cause of your problems, figure out a solution. People often think if they can find the cause, the solution will come naturally. I find it’s usually the other way. If you find a solution, the cause will become obvious.
There’s also something to be said for either removing or comforting the negative people in your life. Most negative people are open to comfort and solutions. If they aren’t, you should probably lessen contact with them. People like that can really bring you down.
Anyways, wish me luck! 4 years ago
For me, it’s a lot like the ocean. I’ll be sucked under, but randomly I’ll pull myself out and be fine for a while.
But then something else happens and I get pulled down again. It’s a cycle that I don’t mind that much, but would someday like to break. 5 years ago
I am determined to make this happen. Life is not moving far when I pity myself. If anybody achieved it, I’d love to know. Also, after a thorough research I found the following website and I am giving it a try!!!
How to Handle Self-Pity6 years ago
I decided to start with this goal. It may sound easy, but I’ve had ~30 years of practice. Now, I want to break this habit pattern. I want to surround myself with strong, positive, empathetic people to learn from by observing. I will be adding sub-goals to make it easier for myself to take baby steps towards this goal. 6 years ago
Life is so much better when you suck it up and take some action… 6 years ago
