I want to make new friends who are more like me. Friends who are independant and critical thinkers who don’t blindly follow ideas and traditions that they were told to follow by their religion or their family of both. I don’t mind religious people as long as they still retain the ability to be critical (even about their own church and culture) and think for themselves. Friends who, if they’re female, are not obsessively hunting for husbands and can appreciate other forms of social interaction between men and women than marriage. Friends who are not trying to patronize or manipulate me because I’m single or because I’m not coherent in my career and life choices or because I’m this or that. Friends who are open minded and cosmopolitain enough to be indifferent to ethnicity, faith and culture when they make new friends. Friends who are mature and independant and don’t live with their moms. Friends, who like me are curious and adventurous and open to novel ideas and experiences.
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Columbus
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making progress! it is uncomfortable having healthy friends and not destructive friends. taking the actions and persuing good relationships. it’s scary! tuesday i went to a meditation class with my classmate i mentioned, and he’s really nice, so i followed up with a text message asking him if he wants to see a bollywood movie tonight, he couldn’t cuz he was working but he was totally into it. i realized i was scared to put myself out there and get rejected. me! funny.
tomorrow night i am going to play music at 7pm with two friends who are calm, stable, mature, not addicts, attractive, successful, and then we are going to go to a party. they are fashion designers but not obnoxious about it. i really like them, they also like healthy food and respect that i have a special diet. it is a litmus test. :)
just chatted with a nice thai-american guy who likes to meditate…! calm and cool!
friday night went ice skating with a cool elegant loner like me who is an architect and very sweet and non-partying and went to india for a month from poland – righteous!
ummmm…showed up for class and made good work and had a good attitude, 3 shows this month, nice haircut, trying to sleep on time, all that helps, and…
...chatted up a japanese boy on the train because i saw he likes minmi on his ipod and and and we became pals what!!
and now i am going to return an email from a guy who emailed me
and maybe work out tomorrow with a nice girl i don’t know how healthy she is but she is very very nice and sweet.
I don’t have very many healthy friends with whom I feel I can have trust and intimacy or the prospect of it. I need friends who don’t use drugs and alcohol to escape, who are fun, productive, and available, and who help me to be a better person by way of example and support.
I love these people already and I don’t even know most of them yet!
I also want to support and grow the friendships I do have and improve them because it is my responsibility to be healthy and that will benefit everyone—not just me.
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