move

To make a long story short.. I dated a guy for 3 years, now he wants to be free and enjoy other women. I’ve been trying to win him back for about 3 or 4 months now with no success at all. I’ve finally given up. I hate my current living situation and I can’t let go of him while he is in my reach. So, I’m moving across the country to live with my parents. I think I need their love and emotional support. I am just crushed and devastated. I thought this was the guy I was gonna marry one day. But I’m not gonna share him with other women and let him blow me off all the time to hang out with other people. It’s not fair, when I am a sweet, loving person who has always shown him support. So this is my to do list:
—let go of him and this place and get excited to move
—buy a bigger crate for my cat and find out how he will be most comfortable for the ride
—reduce the amount of stuff I have by getting rid of a lot of it
—put my 2 weeks in at work
—pack all my stuff into the car
—find out how to get there
—change my cell phone plan so i can use it anywhere
—say goodbye to him and my friends
—make sure i have enough money for gas and food

I am well and safely moved, finally. It was too crazy and busy to write about it while I was doing it, and then Internet connectivity ended up being far more of a problem than anticipated. But now I am finally back and ready to work on goals again.

Just moved from Florida to Cary, NC in the middle of June 2009. Currently, I’m living in a nice apartment with my boyfriend, who wants to move to a house as we lived in a house in Florida. Fortunately, we found this dream house close by to where we live and close to my job, though nothing is final yet. Since we had planned on not staying in the apartment too long, much of our stuff is still in boxes in a garage or back in Florida. The problem is this: I have too much stuff! I have a tendency to hold onto stuff of no value and clutter builds. My goal is to start minimizing my material possessions, donating item of worth that I don’t need to either friends or to a Goodwill store. Something has to give; I don’t want my new abode to be cluttered up. Anyway, wish me luck . . .

since i made this goal i wound up moving twice, wound up coming back to my parents both times, guess I suck at life or something ;)

I’m not sure if the fact that I’m a USAF brat has anything to do with it, but my husband and I have been in Louisiana for a year and, though I enjoy it, I’m going to be ready to leave in about a year or two. Maybe I need a new living space before a new city, but regardless a move would be nice.

Long term goal. We’ll see how it goes.

I wasn’t sure where to put this… but since we moved and this was one of our first long wanders together around the new area, why not here? It beats monochrome shots of all the boxes we have yet to unpack.

It’s wonderful being able to walk to trails and woods and water.
Nice that the move nailed my 400th goal too.

But I think we’re nearly finished at the old place.

Today is the day of dregs: the things that remain, storage room & garage monsters, awkward odds and ends. Unfortunately it looks like we’re going to have to smash up my lovely computer desk and take it to the dump to keep the other 2 carloads of junk company.

We’ve dropped off numerous loads of trash, donations, recycling, baby gear (pang), oodles of computer parts, and lots of stuff destined for temporary storage at the new place until we get to it. And our clothes – since they’re rather handy. I honestly can’t believe how much crap we’ve accumulated, even after getting rid of a lot. Much, much more must go.

I think we can manage another couple of loads tonight, but this is really taking it’s toll on me. I’ve had enough – we all have. At least we’ve managed to get rid of a lot of things today and the end is within sight. At least I hope that’s what the light ahead of me is…

We got the place. It is 50.00 more a month, but the landlady wanted us badly enough to waive the cat deposit, and give us the keys without making us pay any rent until October! It’s beautiful and feels oh so welcoming inside. We’ve been packing and moving and decluttering along the way like fiends, and we finally are starting to see progress. I can’t wait to get in there for good. Some seriously hellish neighbors moved in a few months ago and I haven’t slept well since.

Last night JoJo met us here at the old place and helped me pack while Markus drove back and forth with the hatchback, taking as much as he could.

Today while Isak was at his first day back at pre-school I came back and went into overdrive packing and cleaning. After I picked him up, we both came back here and he help vacuum (with his little shark vac) and dust until I heard silence and found him asleep on the couch, which allowed me to get even more done. I’ve probably put in a good 6 hours of full speed dealing with the house dregs.

My main accomplishment was packing up the rest of the kitchen (especially the fragile stuff), but I also did most of the closets, sorted a million odds and ends, cleared half a dozen cabinets (the vacuum box was perfect for all the wrapping paper), packed up the drawers, boxed most of the office gear (except the computer itself, obviously), and the curtains (bath as well). I killed off some seriously mutant dust bunnies too.

I called the phone company (they don’t have our new number yet, or what date it’ll be hooked up), and dealt with the internet – I can keep my longtime e-mail for about $2 a month, so I’m doing that and cancelling the rest as of a week from now, which will save us quite a bit.

Markus called to say he thinks we can get the 3 ton again either tomorrow or Sunday. Tomorrow Isak’s going to hang with Astara and her family for the day, and we’ll be back here to do the rest of the packing and cleaning so the place will be ready to show Sunday. I’m absolutely pooped now, and Isak just woke up—I’m hoping Markus can pick us up after work so we can skip the long bus ride home.

I have that feeling you get when you’ve put a grand effort into a pressing job you don’t want to deal with. There’s still a bit left, but it’s manageable. I declare… I believe I’ve earned a fine and fragrant bubble bath this evening.

I’m still a bit discombobulated. The big move was quite chaotic. The ¾ van took a lot more than we’d assumed, so by the time it was full, we really had to go crazy with more packing. Then the really big van arrived 4 hours early, so we were all pretty dizzy trying to fill both at the same time.

We took a late afternoon pizza break, then got back to it. We did 2 loads with the ¾ ton and 1 with the 3 ton. I wish we’d had more packing time and managed to move everything, but we should have it all out and cleaned up before Sunday. We’ve been bringing what we can over in the hatchback, and are hoping to borrow the company van for the rest. There’s more left than I thought.

We’ve been at the new house for two nights now. The basics are in place, but it’s going to be a while before we’re unpacked and settled in. It’s marvelously quiet though. And I had a very deep and delicious bubble bath last night – the tub is divine.

I just got back on line an hour ago (with the laptop, my main system is still set up at the old house) so that helps, especially since the phone isn’t hooked up yet. Another surprise bonus… I have an old digital TV box that’s been gathering dust in the garage, and this place has digital cable, so I plugged it in and BOOM, we have hundreds of channels for free. I know TV is the devil, but at least we have better options now.

Isak and I took our first wander around the new neighbourhood earlier today. We found a giant playground and saw cheerful bright orange garbage trucks with happy waving garbage men. People smiled and nodded and said good morning. This area seems a lot friendlier than our old one. And cleaner. And the views are great! I loved seeing the low wandering clouds and blue hued city.

I’ll hold off on checking this goal off until we’re totally moved, have cleaned up and given back the keys to the old house. (And hopefully had our damage deposit returned.) I look forward to it very, very much.

I think we’re going to be quite happy here.