flirt more

i like someone for the first time in like 3 years things ended babdly last time so scared of beig hurt >.<

And I’m a woman… And I so like him! I need to work up the guts to flirt with him a little!

For me this is the hardest thing ever. I mean I’m not comfortable communicating with guys full stop and don’t really have any guy friends. I also get really nervous that when I flirt, the guy is gonna be like “eew she’s not my type.”

...And just as fast as the positive attention came, it dried up. I should have known better!! 19/20 women on dating sites are angry, jaded, overly self-centered, or just plain messed up. And that’s just what I attracted…again. So never mind that. I will build relationships in the real world, by getting involved with…whatever. Anything. But nothing online!

Well, I signed back up on a dating site. Yeah, I know, but it was actually done in connection with trying to complete one of other goals. When the (one) person I was looking for on there didn’t respond, I started looking around and saw some awful cute faces! So I told them so! :c)

Between that and a funny – though very brief, and without a picture – profile, I got a LOT of attention in a very short time. Feels nice. :c)

Come to think of it, there is a woman who flirts with me unabashedly! But she is not available – yes, I know this is kooky – so I don’t encourage it. It’s still nice to trade positive attention with each other, though, so I just limit it to appropriate compliments.

;c)

I’m doing this a lot more. Correction: I’m a lot more positive and outgoing in my interaction with people. Sometimes that comes out as flirtatiousness, most times not.

I’m thinking there are not that many women I really want to flirt with, anyway. I must be really picky!!! Either that, or I’ve finally learned not to pursue the wrong thing…

But the skills that make for good outgoingness naturally translate into flirtatiousness, so it’s all good! :c)

I hadn’t really conciously thought of this goal until this afternoon- I don’t why but somehow instead of my usually goofy chuckle, a flirty giggle followed by a “you’re SUCH a darling!” unexpectedly leaped out of my mouth. I have no clue what spurred it, but since that incident, I’ve actually been- dare I say- “flirty”.

I had forgotten how much fun it could really be…

I can tell spring is near because this goal keeps popping into my head.

I’m going to give it another shot with the next man I find attractive.

Ah, I still suck at this. I rarely meet men that I’m attracted to and it’s even more rare that the situation is right.

I’ve made zero progress with this goal. I used to flirt all the time with men that interested me. I would like to find that flirty woman again.