be a leader

What books would people recommend on leadership?

on being a leader right now.

I’m creating a profile- lots more people know who I am than ever before, which apparently is a good thing. However I’m not earning enough money to pay the bills & I don’t know what I’m doing wrong & I can’t see a way out of it.
I feeel so ashamed that I’m not meeting my full resposibilities.

On one hand I feel like it’s good to ask for help when one needs it, on the other hand I feel like a complete failure & that I have the power to change things on my own, and if I’m not doing that then I’m failing miserably.

I had a phone conversation with someone today where I cried because I’m overdue the money I owe & I can’t cope I feel so ashamed. Because I feel so ashamed I’m not taking care of myself- not eating right, not sleeping right, started smoking again too. I feel like such a failure, and worse still I feel like a complete fake- how can I be a coach when I’m failing so miserably myself?

I’m developing a public profile which is good, but what it also means is that I have a conflict- when I am having a bad day I have avoided expressing it, for fear of not setting a good example.

I am conflicted about this because on one hand I believe that having someone who appears to be something that I want to be is hugely inspiring, yet at the same time i also believe that the best example is being totally honest- because people can really relate to pain/struggle & they’re likely to have been in that place themselves at some point in their lives- which is a good way to connect to them.
However, it may be more useful to only share retrospectively…

what do you think?

Are you inspired when someone shares openly & honestly – warts, defects & weaknesses & you can witness the process of them finding solutions…

or do you prefer to see a leader appear to be successful

or would you like to know that they have experienced difficulties- but only when they’ve found the solutions….

which option do you think is more inspiring, more motivating?

amonst friends and in church, to be a person of influence for the better

so much so that I’m quite frequently getting people talking to me that know me & who I am before I’ve even met them!

This is a little scarey, and I need to be careful about managing my public profile appropriately!

I’ve been quite quiet on 43t of late because I’ve been spending a lot of time on twitter, yesterday I received a compliment and a recommendation from a follower of mine which I was pretty blown away by:

an inspirational person- motivates us 2 find d best within ourselves she’s the Irish #Obama #followfriday11:51 AM May 23rd

A compliment comparing me to Obama! WOOO HOOO! I’ll take that any day :)

I’ve really been thinking about what it means to lead. A lot of it is about being an example. If I’m a leader of one (myself) I may become a leader of many, but if I can’t lead one (myself), I probably won’t lead any.

This one will take time to realize fully, but can be realized to some extent TODAY.

is about me becoming the best person I possibly can be.

Together with one of my coaches I’m uncovering things I really don’t like about myself.

it’s not nice. what I fear most is actually what I do, and it’s the denial of that aspect that gives it power and manifests it even more. It’ll continue manifesting stronger and stronger until I accept that it is part of me and needs to be loved, just like every other part.

Am I prepared to love the parts of me that I don’t even like?
At least I am prepared to admit they exist. That’s the first step Awareness, have I accepted them yet? Not quite, but almost.
Once I’ve accepted them it’ll be easy to move into action and replace them with more loving attributes.

I feel the world owes me a living, that I deserve to have a home, food, a car just because I’m me. I don’t fully grasp that in order for that to happen I have to create something of value that I can exchange to get the things I need. I’m still caught up in anger and resentment that I didn’t get my basic rights/needs met. When actually now it’s time for me to take RESPONSIBILITY and learn HOW to provide for myself.

This has all arisen from me realising I’m scared to run a workshop that I’ve run before with huge success, I now have a lot wider network to promote it through, people have expressed an interest in attending. I’m scared I’ll run it and loose the deposit on the hotel, which I can’t afford to pay.

where the games are specifically designed to bring out the best in oneself I am proud to say I am growing in both my ability to be an effective leader and my confidence in that ability.

I lead a team to winning one of the games, and we won by a LONG long way! :-)

It was sublime finding people that I loved working with, we worked smoothly, effortlessly and all slipped into the roles that suited us best, no arguments or power struggles, we all just got on with what needed to be done. I drove the team forward to meet our objectives and delegated another team member to lead us in celebrating our successes, together we all made an awesome team and I gained so much loyalty from those that worked with me which was an honour, and something I’m very proud of.

Being a lifetime member of frontier trainings is an honour and a priviledge and has introduced me to the frontier family, where lifetime members really are all about supporting each other in reaching their dreams.

Thank you Clinton Swaine!

http://www.frontiertrainings.com