be less judgemental

I need to stop this crap. I hate what a bitch I am sometimes… I will say something mean about someone with my friends to make them laugh, even if its something the person cant help (facial features and such)... I am in college. I shouldnt be doing this.

Then, yesterday, I saw this Tyra Banks show rerun thing and it was about Obese models. The whole time I was like
“Ew, thats so disgusting”, “Gross”, “Nasty”. I hate that I do that.

At least I am aware of it I guess. That is my goal for this, my Junior year of College. No crap-talking about people. I realize that having thoughts like that are probably inevitable, but I am sure as hell going to try. I am just insecure with myself and need to get over it!

It’s all about positive thinking, and putting yourself in the other person’s shoes.
Besides, after being judged for most of my college career for wearing greek letters, etcetcetcetc… I’d rather not inflict that on anyone else. :)
I always assume the best in people, because it’s what everyone deserves.

I want to stop judging people by their looks or their first impression they make. It’s not fair of myself, everyone has their nice characteristics so I want to try and find them in every new person I meet. I need to be more open minded.

Ugh, I have a friend who is judgmental and, after being with her, I come home and start complaining and talking about her! I am going to work hard at only saying kind things about her. I don’t want to be lead astray on my path to being less judgmental. I would like to get to that place, like in Buddhism, where I don’t even think badly of others.

I want to be less judgemental, but at the same time, I know it’s not realistic to try to completely stop judging people. In my opinion, it’s an instinct. But what I can do is keep an open mind and always try to find something good about each person.

I’m really proud of myself today, everyone I seen or spoke to- instead of nitpicking I tried to focus on a few good things about them and keep anything negative out of my head. It seemed to work fairly well.. hopefully this is a big step forward.

this is great!
i always challenge myself to be less judgmental.
when i catch myself doing it, i ask myself why i would jump to such a conclusion. what has made me biased in this way?
i actually feel a lot better since i’ve been working on it.
being more accepting of others helps you be more accepting of yourself.
there is definitely a strong connection between them.
and i also think less judgemental people are more intelligent.
they see things with open minds. they don’t leave any option out. they find truth.
this is kind of ironic seeing as judgemental people usually think they know everything :)

When my friend came back from a retreat, she told me about how she has this problem. And I realized: so do I.

When old women [above the collegic level] wear hoodies, I assume they are weird and hobo-y. Boys who aren’t hot are probably weird. Black people [this is especially sad since I am a living example of the non-truth of this] aren’t very successful, or do well in school. Ppl with any sort of chain or majority black on are goth. Etc.

And it is esp. sad bc I have seen how all of these are not true. I get good grades, and I am black. My brother has a 4.0 and he’s black. My dad, mom…. all really smart. Barrack Obama… the list goes awn. The most Catholic girl in my class ‘dresses goth’.

I’ve only, in the last few months, sort of realised that I need to do this. I don’t think though that it’s a goal I’ll ever really complete, instead it’s part of a way I want to be able to live.
So I’m going to try! At least knowing I need to cut other people some slack will allow me to recognise when I’m quick to judge and then hopefully then I’ll get better at not doing it at all!

deffiently worth going 4 i think