Improve my Karma.

When my friend arrived at my place a week ago, I was miserable. Everything she did annoyed me, we managed to get into a public shouting match on our first walk out and I couldn’t wait for the time with her to be over. I was generally unpleasant the next day: being courteous but not warm, only speaking to her when I had to, not making an effort to take meals at the same time, locking myself in a room on the other side of the house, being unhelpful, sulking and not being a particularly good host or friend. I was feeling guilty about the way I was behaving because I knew that no matter what my problems with her were, she was a guest in my home and it was my duty to make her feel welcome. Because I was being so unpleasant, she was cold towards me too, sulking, barely talking, ignoring me and looking annoyed at the slightest things.

Well, I decided to get over my immaturity and make an effort. I listened harder to what she wanted to do and genuinely tried to find a way to do it instead of just brushing it aside; I talked to her and listened to the things she wanted to share patiently even though some of those things were painful to hear; I ate with her, walked with her and used all the patience I had at my disposal. At first it was an effort. But she soon reciprocated, and soon positive energy was coming from both of us, flowing back and forth. Talking was no longer painful, I actually felt glad she was sharing her life experiences with me. She was more considerate, especially when I opened up about how I’d bee feeling. Spending time together was actually fun, even if we couldn’t always do exactly what she had in mind – we found ways to make it fun, just our shared sense of humour and common interests made most less-than-perfect situations bearable and even hilarious. I’d forgotten how good it was to talk to her and how much she really understands me, even now. I’d forgotten that it’s fun to have someone who likes to pamper herself around – face masks and shopping are a lot more fun with company. It was good to have someone to vent to, to hear, to learn from, to giggle with and to hug. We’ve watched the stars on several nights on my roof, with cups of hot water and stories to tell.

Being nice to my friend when it was hard to came back to me directly this time; it gave our friendship a new intensity and it gave my holiday a fresh, lively edge.

Ok, so bought a homeless aboriginal lady (she looked about 50-60) a fruit and nut bar & juice. She wanted coke but i figured juice would be better and there was nothing else open that early besides the deli, so yeah. She took her time eating the bar, and had to get someone else to open the juice. And, hopefully, that made her day a little easier.

I used to scoff at the advice “Give and you will receive ten times more”. I’m still not sure about the multiple, but reading and reasoning have given me solid faith in the concept of cause and effect. Every action has a consequence, and these consequences find their way back to you in a complicated cycle that we probably will never clearly trace. Good actions = good consequences.

How does it work? Well, most people will feel more inclined to do a stranger a favour / be nice / be polite / be good-natured / do things with a good grace if a stranger – someone they likely won’t see again – does something good for them. The inclination will be particularly strong in most people because they do not feel “expected” to reciprocate – how, after all, do you do a good turn “back” to a fleeting stranger? – and thus – rather paradoxically – have a stronger genuine desire to do good than if they felt that reciprocating the good deed was a duty./

And so, the stranger you compliment or help may not be able to pay you back personally, but it’s quite likely that he’ll do good to someone else, setting in motion a chain of good actions that lead back to you eventually. If more people take consciousness of this law, and act to spread “good” – sappy as that sounds, like most platitudes it seems to hold – imagine how many chains will be going round, positively affecting more people and those who started them too!

I’m going to start doing this right now! Improve my karma. I’ve been having a bad spell of bad luck! I’m going to start doing good things for people that I usually wouldn’t do. I feel that I’m probably a bit of a selfish person, so I’m going to make cupcakes for my friend this weekend as a surprise house-warming gift. Yay!

ok. I posted some stuff for free on CL that I want to get rid of as part of my simplify my life goal…so maybe some people will come pick this stuff up and I think that would improve my karma a little.

i want know everything about myself like job,love life,

I lost my purse yesterday at the train station and only realised that i didnt have it on me when i actualy got off the train at my stop, 3 stops after perth train station, the one i left it on. i absolutely freaked out, considering i had just withdrawn $200 from my bank account and slipped i between some papers in my purse. $200 gone, and all my cards and just everything.

I hurried up to the transperth staff, they acted quickly but we got side tracked as i thought i left it on the train initially. Eventually they radio’d perth and we got the call back that it had been found, with the money. meanwhile i had been on the phone to my nan crying my eyes out as that $200 was the last of my money, and it had been money i owed her, which she needed to buy other grandkids christmas presents!

I headed back down to perth, and aparently a lady had handed it in a few minutes before they got the call asking about it. I was releived but i couldnt calm down until i had it in my bag with my bag zipped up!!

The lady didnt leave a name, which is a shame as i would love to thank her. It takes a good person to do something like that, but i know i would too. I have handed in numerous phones and purses in at my high school, and im glad karma has retreived my purse. i know its only money, but its only money when you have alot, and my nan doesnt. If it had been my $200 i wouldnt have cared so much. Im 17, what do i need $200 for? junkfood? lollies? alcohol?.

I am happy that i got it back though. thankyou anonymous lady.

I was at the shops and K-mart had the k-mart wishing tree set up, so i decided to buy something to put under it. There seemed to be alot of toys for young boys, so i decided to buy for a little girl ages 3-7. I bought a disney princess reusable colouring pack, it came with 9 colouring cards, textas and a sponge. It was really cute and although it was only $8, i hope it brightens christmas for a mother/father and their daughter.

Things to stop

• shoplifting
• smoking
• littering
• bitching

Things to start

• being friendlier
• being more considerate
• being more helpful
• smiling more
• being more generous

- will post updates and examples.

ie, last night, had some lollies (funny they were starburst, with the starburst jingle being share something juicy) at the school play, offered them around to atleast 8 people. not much but something i would not do often. good start.

Although I have always tried to stay on the universes good side, but the past 3 years have been a real challenge.

Volunteering, donating, sharing, were a regular part of our lives. Now all we do is work just to keep things afloat at home.

We cannot even minimalize our lives further because no one is buying.

Trying to stay positive, but it is getting harder all the time.

Something positive please. Anything… Anyone….