Create a nurturing love nest with my partner

Sometimes it’s the little things that get to me the most like tonight when I came home to an overflowing garbage can in the kitchen. I know that I am invaluable because if I don’t take out the trash it won’t go out but some day I am full of resentment for these little things. I hate feeling like I am responsible for everything but I also hate having a messy house.

said my sweetie last night. And he’s right. Sure, the cabinet organization is still evolving, but we do have working counter space, places to put things away, and a process for shopping and cooking and cleaning up that seems to work. Ahh, what a relief!

We are doing those cosmetic things it’s easy to look past once you’ve lived somewhere for a while: putting artwork up and such. In just the past few days, it’s started feeling much more homey around here. And tomorrow it will be filled with loving family and friends. What better way to create a nurturing love nest?

Our new comforter set; I love it because it’s so gold and shiny, it cracks me up! the non-shiny side is very plush and soft and comfy against the skin, too. Next step to improving our sleeping space: the walls

We have had lots of changes in our lives lately: employment and work schedule changes, changes in our physical environment (moving and rearranging), changes in the animal population in our household. We are moving towards a morning routine that works for all of us. And today I see the light at the end of the tunnel!

I am even considering purchasing a fancy programmable cat feeder to eliminate morning meow assaults. I think this could fit into the October budget.

Good sleep and a functional morning routine will make our home a much more nurturing love nest for all of us. Ahhhh!

What a relief! To be able to walk down the hallway without picking your way around things, ahhhh! To be able to carry something down the hall without having to lift it over or wrangle it around things. Hooray!

(though not yet beautiful). Our kitchen has less than 5 boxes in it! It takes a lot of time and energy, but we are actually moving much faster than I thought we would on this. Yay, us!

Well, we didn’t succeed with this goal at our last apartment, but now we have a chance to start over in a new place. My sweetie is feeling a little overwhelmed by the disorganization and at a loss as to where to start. But he says moving helped him feel confident in his ability to organize things, so I’m trying to help him build on that, and hold on to the momentum we’ve got going from our move.

I trust that our work in counseling and our improved communication will help us achieve this goal together.

My husband is still such a slob. I do not understand this about him or about anybody else who is a slob. It’s like he has no sense of aesthetics or like clutter and mess doesn’t bother him. He piles all his stuff all over both dressers and throws his clothes around on the floor. When I complain he says just throw his stuff wherever. So our bedroom always has piles of his clothes here and piles of his papers there. I feel like even when I straighten the bed and sweep and all, our room still looks all janky because of his junk.

We already have a hamper in the bedroom for his dirty clothes. The problem is he either doesn’t use it or we get behind on laundry so that it is full. Then he starts throwing stuff on the floor. I do think we need a different storage option for his papers and stuff.

What I need to do is sell him on how the features of a beautiful bedroom will benefit him. Namely, number one way is a happier wife who gets more and better sleep because she sleeps in beautiful surroundings. So less aggravation and nagging for him. Thoughts?

Today we are going to pick out a new comforter and buy a big plant for our bedroom. The Love Nest is getting there!

For the second time since we moved here, we had dinner guests! We did a really good job of working together to make this happen. Sweetie did all the cooking, as he usually does these days, while I tidied the entire place.

I was afraid that cleaning for guests might take me some places I’ve been in the past, places I didn’t want to go again: the pit of crabbiness (that our place isn’t what I want it to be) and the black hole of blame and recriminations about whose fault that might be (mine? never!). I set an intention before we began that I wanted to enjoy the preparations with my partner, as well as enjoying my time with our guests. To go from zero to nurturing love nest in just a few hours seemed impossible, but I decided to just do the best I could to make it look better and not be too much of a perfectionist.

So hooray! We put on some great music and had a good time planning and executing our plan, I steered clear of the emotional mire, we had a nice evening with guests, we devoured an amazing Indian feast thanks to Sweetie’s culinary skills, our guests did the dishes (we should all be so lucky!) and the next morning our place looks great! I think we’ll do this again sometime, just like normal people do!