stop being jealous and insecure

My husband has done really bad things the last years and that make me a really jealousy, insecure and a control freak person. we split several times and now we have like 1 year and a half together and he can’t stand me now cuz i am a pain in the ass i say nasty things even when i don’t have proof of him doing something wrong. We are just one step to a divorce. I have to quit doing that even if he isn’t the best husband in the world. I have to star care more in my son and myself and do more activitis than just sit and worry about what is he doing or what he gonna do.

I’m working this week (and a week is my goal) on getting my jealousy under control to the point where it doesn’t boil up into “the talk” once a week.

I am possibly losing the best man I’ve known because of the damage I’ve allowed myself to carry with me from a past relationship into this one.

This is the first of what I’m sure will be a few entries this week…and maybe for weeks to come.

My jealousy is unfounded. This I know. My goal here is to find things to busy myself, get more “me” time and not be so dependent upon his presence to find my happy place.

I suffer from delusional jealousy. My husband is helping me get over it, but does anyone else have this problem? I feel so alone.

I have a huge problem, I am very insecure due to a past relationship. I have covered it very well for the past years since I got married. But I need to get some sort of help in getting rid of this before I lose the man of my dreams that I married 8 years ago. I cannot stand the thought of him looking at another woman or even being near a pretty woman anywhere. I was never like this before. The man I was with before my husband was mentally abusive and controling . I was scared to even look up in public because he would say “you want to sleep with him or what” I wasn’t allowed to wear makke-up or anything that might be a little tight on me (shirt or jeans)
If someone called with the wrong number he always said “That was him wasn’t it?” That was a daily thing for 7 years . Well I got out of that one somehow and apparently his treating me that way somehow rubbed off on me. Now I have something great and I scared I am going to push him away with these crazy thoughts that sometimes but not always fly out of my mouth towards him. I know I’m driving him crazy , he is just too
much in love with me to say so. Anyone with advice?