and, it’s a goal I think will happen. We’ve known each other for thirty years, though didn’t see each other for 20 of them, and weren’t particularly close. We weren’t romantically interested in each other, and in fact were each married (in fact, more than once) to other people. In each case, it was a disaster. We spent some time together as colleagues a few years ago, and I felt completely at peace whenever I was with him. I put it down to the relief of being near an old friend who understands me well, when I was in the wake of some tough life issues and a divorce from a severely abusive spouse. He seemed to feel I was a nurturing person who wasn’t trying to get anything out of him. We arranged a visit as old friends catching up, though we each thought privately we were open to it being something more if it went that way. Well it just fell into place. We’ve been a couple ever since that visit, 3 years in perfect harmony. He is absolutely perfect and I adore him and our life together. I feel our past relationships have made us extremely careful and serious about what partnership really means. We keep growing as individuals and as a couple and as parents, and are finding out about so many possibilities we can access in life as a team. An extremely beautiful and appreciated experience. I feel we will probably move to do something to formalize our relationship someday. It’s on my goal list because I feel there are some things I need to do first. I earn a lot less right now than my partner does, and I want to increase my income so I am a significant contributor to our household and our future. I don’t want to carry any old debt into our union (there’s not much of it, but I want it all gone). And, it’s on my goal list to continue to continue to open myself in trust to my partner, as well as to grow in the energy and dedication I have for being there for him. When we get to feeling ready, I’d like the recognition of being one family, one team, one name.
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How to marry the love of my life.
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 "I get to wake up next to my best friend and soul mate every day!"
How I did it: We started dating when we were 17 and both knew quickly that it was different than anything else we'd experienced. I had never thought I'd meet someone I'd want to marry and had my whole unattached life planned out. Then I met him. We dated 8 months and scared, I broke it off. We intermittently kept in touch and then one day 18 months later decided to hang out again. Things fell right back in place. A month after that we were engaged, and married 11 months later. We've been married over 3 years now and have a beautfiul 2 year old son. Lessons & tips: If you know he's the one, don't ever give up on that. I dated a few other guys while we were apart, but knew in my heart every time that they could never take his place.
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