have adventures instead of relationships

In a year times I’m quitting my job and Traveling. To where I don’t know. I’m going to cash in my 401k and health insurance account to pay off my school loans and my car then starting my adventure .I might be called a bum on my journey but I don’t care. Some people might say I’m running away from my problem. But that’s the thing, I don’t have a problem. All I do is go to work and ride my bike then go to sleep hoping I don’t wake up so don’t have to live this life. I’m a happy person when I’m with my friends and my family but I’m just looking for change. I’m waiting for a storm to wash the land away and every thing on it but that won’t happen so I have to take matters in my own hands. When it comes to relationships, I’m a stepping stone at best. I’m 27 years old and the longest relationship I had only last two months. It’s like every two to three years I find a woman I have feeling for and I put my feelings out there to get shut down.

p.s. don’t comment on this because I don’t want your pity. I just came to the realization of the matter of fact. I just had to vent but this is happen. There is nothing here for me where I’m at in life and the sooner I get to the top of the next hill the better. I’m playing life way to safe and it’s time for me on my own to take some chances. This might be a early midlife crisis I don’t know.

I think i might be ready to have more relationships in my life. I’m not removing this goal just yet, but I may be open to something else. Although I don’t think i’d settle for a relationship that wasn’t an adventure in and of itself.

I thought this thing involved running around like Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade. Seeing new places and doing new things. Not sluten up on a Tuesday night.

Hiya
Hope you don’t mind, just wanted to share my thoughts…I think you are doing the right thing for yourself….Good on you, as it’s not an easy thing to do… As some people rather be a couple, to avoid being lonely. But what they don’t reaslie they are more lonely being a couple. When they need to go and see what’s out there to learn and enjoy alone!!! Good on you!!!

I have done this for two years, and in time, my heart and mind was ready. Then without looking and (wanting!!) it had happen, I had met someone. It’s lovely, but it’s not always easy. When your single, you seemed to be more free and not have to think about the other person in your life.

What I have found, that with the right person , at the right time of your life. Your are willing to go though misunderstanding, heated debate etc…Because it’s not easy thinking for two people, never mind for thinking about what you need.

You can  make two choices...To be single, and having that wonderful freedom and maybe sometime have the problem of being lonely.  Or be a couple, have those wonderful time being in a couple, sharing and have the problems in learning to share other things you don't like!! So for now, you can chooses what's right for you! Because being single and being a couple have good and not so good things about them, so its about what you rather have for now. Its not what about what  anyone think, do not matter what age you are ( I am 35 years old, still not married) , or what your doing in your life.  Always follow your own heart, not the feeling of what I should do!!

usual scenario:

I’m so turned off at the idea of even dating. I’ve been asked on dates lately by quite a few really great guys. Attractive, intelligent, great jobs, similar interests, etc. But even when i agree to a date, i tend to find a way to get out of it. I think I’m just really enjoying the single life right now. I’ve just been spending lots of time with close friends, working on improving myself and getting ready for life’s adventures.

I got out of my relationship and now my business partner, Dave, and I have begun our travels and adventures. We took our first trip last week. It was spur of the moment and we went to a couple places around the state. We took our laptops with us so we still kept up on work. Having a normal relationship is the last thing on my mind right now. I’m having fun and meeting people and getting ready to see the world. A typical relationship will only hold me back at this point.

some adventures are meant to be kept private!

So I guess that puts me one step closer to this goal.

I sort of already have an adventure companion. Dave. He’s my ex-boyfriend (from a couple years ago, not the most recent one) turned business partner. We’re in the process of building a mobile office so we can travel the country on sort of a perma-road trip while still running a successful business.

This sort of ties in with a lot of my other goals. I guess my whole viewpoint is that I’m young. Now is the time to have adventures and see the world. I might as well take full advantage of it.

...but my current situation isn’t the most ideal to begin a relationship, so adventures are the other option. It’s been nice, but I know it’s temporary which makes it bearable. But still…