be able to stand up to people who intimidate me.

i wan tot stand 4 myself and get my rights

i’d usually stand up to people, but when they are in a state of power(eg. a teacher) what are you supposed to do then? they can expell you if you try to stand up to a teacher!

“A Gentle word allays anger, A harsh word provokes anger” Proverbs 15

the way I started has been to meet bullying with anger, but that does not ever work, if anything it just makes you seem like a fool,

When I started to meet people more gently I actually ended up being made fun of less and less, I believe this bible passage with all my heart. I am now learning to anticipate why people do things that they do, to better react. For instance, when my bro blasts his guitar it is not to annoy me, it is because he is depressed or mad (not at me even) so is it better to get into a yelling fight and then fist fight, or migrate to a different room and do something else, I find doing this, HE actually comes into the other room, and that tells me that he is over it and also shows me that that is the only way he can release stress. He will never listen to an argument in a state of depression.

I’ll try not to be intimidated by others. Should I fail, I will try again. Because I’ll not be intimidated by others or frustrated by my temporary failures. And I believe I am going to do this better through practice.

standing up to people who intimidate you is awesome. you finally realize who YOU are, and you wont let anyone stomp all over you anymore! be strong and dont let them bring you down, because they have nothing better to do in their lives than intimidate you.

you are worth it.

I haven’t really been in a situation that was too intimidating but in the few I have been in I have been respectfully assertive.

for myself and for my principles and values… whatever they actually are.

This isn’t just ‘worth doing’, but essential for your self-esteem. Through a good assertiveness course, I learnt the skills and gained the confidence to stand up to a couple of rather nasty people, with complete inner calm and confidence. I’ve stood up to many others since, with varying success – BUT, simply having the skill and the courage to stand up to them makes you feel so much better than keeping the anger and bitternesss trapped inside.

The course was 8 years ago, and the skills have recently slipped, but I plan to just re-do a course.

I strongly suggest anyone having this goal does an assertiveness course, read books on it, and have the skill to do this without fear, and with calm confidence.

I have this thing called “passive agressive” it’s really bad but not to bad some times. I really wish I could tell people how I really feel, and not hold it in. I just dont like being mean…..

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