lose my virginity

im a horny male that needs to get laid

im a horny male that needs to get laid

It was kind of forced upon me by my first boyfriend, but I realized later that I was a strong, confident, YOUNG girl who didn’t know what she was doing. However, this experience has taught me to stand up for my body and has ultimately given me great self esteem.

I am determined to lose it to my bf. I feel that it’s the right time and that I am ready. I am both excited and nervous though.

Most of my friends refuse to believe that I’m a virgin. I don’t blame them. I discuss sexual matters openly, flirt a lot and have dated more than my fair share of guys. Thing is, I never go beyond kissing and some cuddling. No guy – even the one I was with for two years – has been beyond my underwear. And that was a long time ago – since then, I’ve limited myself to kisses, if that. It’s strange even to me. I masturbate regularly, I have a vivid sexual imagination, I write erotica, I think nakedness is delicious. I long to have an active sex life.

I think I’m finally coming to terms with this sexual side of myself. My family’s not particularly religious. My dad is “spiritual but non-religious” and my mum, though Catholic, doesn’t impose her beliefs on anyone. I was raised Catholic though – Communion, Confirmation, etc – and I guess some of those values stayed with me. Modesty, saving yourself for marriage, etc. My mum’s never been open about sexuality – it makes her really uncomfortable if I even mention it – and I guess somewhere I felt a little frightened, even repulsed by how intense those desires were in me. Convention and values I grew up with, the very place I grew up in, told me that sexual pleasure was wrong, not something to indulge in. I think I’m finally accepting that for me, there’s no shame in the body and its pleasures. I enjoy good food and I can only imagine how much I would enjoy sex.

A smaller part is that for a long time I wasn’t comfortable with my body. I was always going for unrealistic ideals and I think that now that I’m more confident in myself, I would feel comfortable sharing intimacy with another person. Another factor was that I can give myself such pleasure that I worried that the experience was bound to be disappointing. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m wrong, because just being with myself doesn’t fulfill me even though it gives me an amazing release. I crave more, to share someone’s intimacy and allow him to share mine. I think that that’s the real magic of sex.

I’m still not the type of girl who’d have one-night stands – that is something I will never do, because it goes against my pride, the values I have defined for myself, and would injure my self-esteem – or even sleep with just anyone to “lose it”. I still want someone I am attracted to, whom I can laugh with, whom I like and whom I am comfortable enough to strip for. I’ve just decided to let it happen – because there has been ample opportunity for it to happen with people I liked in the last two years – instead of holding back, and depriving myself of pleasure. It’s time to accept that it’s OK for me, even if it’s not OK for others close to me.

I’m 21 and I’m still a virgin. Not that I’m ashamed or anything of it, but really, I’m just bored now. I feel like it’s holding me back. I KNOW that there are plenty of 21-yr-old virgins out there but the fact of the matter is in our culture, if you lose your virginity over the age of lets say…18, you’re a “late bloomer” or whatever. I’m worried about getting close to guys and scaring them off – when I tell people I’m a virgin they automatically think that it’s “cute that I’m waiting for THE ONE or marriage.” I’m totally not. And honestly there have been times where I just want to hit that and get it over with, but the guys are scared I’m gonna want to marry them afterwards or some shit.

I basically just want to get my first time out of the way at this point. Not that I don’t think it’s a big step and I’m just gonna go out and find some random guy to give it to, but I just feel like there are many other big first steps in life that are just as important. There is a guy I’ve been “sexting” (lol) with for months now. Neither of us want a relationship but I’ve decided that I’m going to make it my goal that he will be my first and it will be before the end of the summer. It would be an FWB relationship – he’s really sexy and a cool guy, but I can’t see myself dating him. Too flaky and emotionally unavailable. Maybe giving away my virginity to an FWB isn’t the best idea, but whatever. We all have to make our own mistakes and deal with the consequences. I’m to the point where I think this weekend I’m just going to tell him I’m tired of fantasizing about him and he needs to come pick up me up and bring me to his house NOW. LOL!

Hopefully, I don’t chicken out. I want to do it, and I think I’m “ready”, but I’m scared that I’ll disappoint him or the actual sex won’t live up to our “sextual expectations”. Idk. We’ll see what happens…

I WANT TO LOOSE MY VIRGINITY!!!!!!!!!!!

hmm any chicks want to finally do this for me im 16

I spent the weekend at his place. We spent most of the time naked and had sex four times today. The sex itself didn’t hurt that much, but the position we did it in has already made my upper thighs SO sore!

I have no regrets yet. I’m glad that I didn’t end up being a virgin until I’m 40 after all. Losing it on Easter when I used to be a good little Christian girl waiting for marriage is kind of ironic, I guess. :-)

Well, last night was interesting, to say the least. There is now a certain giant fork in the road of my life. It’s always been there, waiting not-so-patiently in the future, but now it’s here and I have to choose which way I will go.

The guy I’ve been seeing for a week spent the night at my place. We both got completely naked, which was the first time a man has ever seen me fully nude. I asked him if we could go very, very, very slowly. We kissed a lot and he did some other things to me for a little while. The lights were on and there were no covers over us. That was a little awkward but not as much as I imagined it would be.

Then I told him to stop. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to go through with it. So we laid in bed naked for an hour, just talking. He ran his hands all over me. Eventually he got on top of me for a minute, but I still wasn’t sure about having sex. So I convinced him to just get dressed and go for a walk in the park with me. Afterward, we bought some pear juice and talked for a few hours before finally trying to catch some sleep. He went to bed naked; I insisted on keeping my clothes on that time. Sleep was mostly unsuccessful due to continued touching, giggling and talking. I felt much more comfortable with the lights out and a thick comforter over us, so much so that I almost changed my mind about not having sex. Almost.

A few hours later, we both woke up and resumed the touchy-feely stuff, but still not the main event. Finally, I showered and we went back into the city. He was very sweet (though obviously disappointed) while we strolled around the university. He even said he wants to see me again next Saturday.

So, what should I do now?!

I like him. He has so many qualities I want in a boyfriend. He’s European/Asian, handsome, very smart, sweet, easy to talk to, romantic, fascinating, fun to be around, and 7 years older (I like older men :). We have some things in common. I’m pretty sure I don’t want to be with him forever, but a few months seems like it would be nice. He’s not a good kisser, but maybe that can be improved. He used way too much tongue, which I don’t enjoy, but he stopped when I asked him to.

I’m 23 years old. I’ve waited SO much longer than most people do. I grew up as a Christian in a small town. Waiting until marriage always seemed like the proper thing to do. And I’ve always been scared of relationships; friendships are hard enough, after all. I’ve dated 14 guys, but my longest relationship was only two months. Now I’m more comfortable with the thought of being with someone, but that doesn’t mean I’ve lost my fear of getting hurt and possibly trapped in a sticky situation that might interfere with my plans for travel, grad school, etc.

He seems like the ideal person to give it up to, other than being a lot more experienced than me. I’m just scared because part of me is still holding on to that silly notion of waiting for someone I truly love. A year ago, I never would have dreamed of giving it up to someone I’ve only known for a week. So much has changed since then, but does that mean I’m finally ready to lose it?

Anyway, I put him off for another five days (we can only see each other on weekends), but next Saturday I will be in the same predicament. What will I do then? I don’t really care if I lose him- like if we don’t sleep together next week and he consequently breaks up with me. I went into this relationship thinking, whatever happens, happens. I’m not going to worry about labels (Are we officially bf/gf?) and freak out if this falls apart. But I feel so confused and unsure about what to do concerning my virginity. I may never get married. The older I get, the weirder it is that I haven’t lost it. Most people would tell me to just get it over with. And if I lose it to this guy, I probably won’t regret it in the sense of, oh my god, why did I sleep with that loser? He really does seem like a great person. Besides, if I ever do find my “soulmate,” they probably won’t be a virgin either.

I still have so much growing up to do. I feel like such a naive little girl sometimes.

:-/