be a better husband and father

i starting to see that ive gone down on being a husband and a father to my family i love them very much

I want to be able to go to bed every night and not lament about all the time I wasted NOT showing the ones I love how much they mean to me.

This will be something at least.

Also, I’m asking my son to do things more rather than barking orders at him when he behaves badly.

Agreed to go on a community family day out later in the month.

Yes I’ve been snapping at her recently. I’ve no excuses save I’m under a lot of pressure at the moment.

What can I do today – let’s give her a shoulder massage.

Today in church the message was addressed to the fathers in attendance. Fathers should also be good husbands and model that for their children. According to First Peter 3:7, men should have the following for their wives:
1. Consideration – Understanding. Ask her questions and get to really know her.
2. Courtesy – Show her honor and value her.
3. Co-equality – Men and women are partners and fellow heirs of God’s spiritual blessings.

Much to think about.

2007 has been a great year so far. I had not been to see live stand up comedy for probably 10 or more years until this last Friday. We are getting away for the weekend soon and we are reconnecting in ways that haven’t happened for a long time.

I was waiting to donate blood and I picked up a Reader’s Digest. I thumbed through and found an article on marriage and keeping the romance alive. There were a couple of tips that stood out to me:

1. Have at least one date night per week of 2 hours without the kids; and
2. Try to schedule a romantic get away once per quarter.

Those sound like go ideas to me, so I’ll give it a try.

For most of 2006, my glass was half empty. What I realized is that I was responsible for filling it, so I dumped what didn’t belong there and filled my glass back up to the top.

It is a work in progress, very much a moving target. Still, I do think I am better. Not great, but better and I had my chance this weekend to be the worst to let loose everything and I didn’t, I kept it together.

So while I take this off my list here, I leave it etched on my heart that I need to continue to improve. However, is it so wrong to take some pride in that I am not a “lost” cause? That I have had a moment of something really good, where I did the right thing?

no i have never hit my wife it has all been words and like i am now realizing words hurt if there is anything i can do to get my wifes love back i will do it life means nothing without her i cant stop crying it hurts so bad lord im sorry