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Meh. I’m in one. It’s tricky, it sucks, but it’s better than a monogamous relationship or no relationship at all.

Try reading The Ethical Slut.

If all 3 will work towards being fair to one another and jealousy is dealt with, it can work. Read this article: http://www.cat-and-dragon.com/stef/Poly/Labriola/jealousy.html

It has an excellent view – this lady is a psychologist who helps people with their jealousy in open relationships. Here’s yer proof!

I guess open relationships just aint for anyone

Its been argued that we can, in theory, love more than one in a relationship. My view is that sure, we can, but how much? The depth of such “love” is, in my mind, shallow beyond comparsion relative to that of the “monogamous” love.

I am having a hard time trying not to compare open relationships to the analogy of a boy not being able to prioritise on what he wants: apples, pears and oranges – he wants them all, and in actuality he can’t eat them all; he gets full and bored before he even finished his apples.

Somebody prove me wrong!

are open relationships like regular hook-ups? As far as I can tell if no children are involved its just like casual dating, only with the same person each time, since there’s no loyalty, commitment and fidelity involved?

I held an Open relationship with my ex-roomate for a year. During this year I helped him raise his kid, and we both had many encounters with other people. We loved each other, and when one of us wanted to get more serious, we shrugged it off and figured the other didn’t want to. We were BEST FRIENDS, and are still friends to this day. There was still jealousy and hurt and pain, and we did it intentionally and unintentionally. We talked about everything except the one thing that was important… being exclusive. We did that game for 10 months and had gone through everything together. We were there for each other, we loved each other, we made love to each other and we still messed around with others. We got engaged on the 11th month and decided to be exclusive, that lasted a month and then I broke it off. There was no way I could have gone through with it. The one thing we did right with the open relationship, was we NEVER lied to each other about what we did. Which always provided trust between us. Would I do it again… NO. It taught me a lot, but as much as I loved him, I could not love him with my full heart. I held back pices of it for me, I was afraid of loving to much and getting hurt to much. It did. It hurt alot, and both of us in the end. My advice is to be monogomous, or not at all. The pain is too deep for both people, and you will never have a true and deep love. You can love, but it won’t go any where, no matter how much you want it to. Take it from someone who knows. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.

G: Its a selfish shit pit

D: Its total selfishness with lack of respect

J: Personally I think people kid themselves if they think they can handle it – we are just not designed for crap like that – way too painful for most people

Goldie Hawn: “Ultimately, human nature doesn’t let it happen” (She’s 59 this year.. she’s gotta know something..right?)

so that I can spot some bastard on Mars trying to justify his disrepectful actions from Saturn