Be a better friend

I´m going to call tomorrow to her mother.Today I left her 2 SMSs and called 2-times.I wrote also e-mail,but she doesn´t answer.She obviously doesn´t want me in her life.I won´t stop trying to contact her-I f*g hate to be ignored!I´ll force her to say me what´s the matter.

she have unavailable phone.Maybe I try it later.I shouldn´t send her that e-mail in which I wrote I am lesbian.I find it very unacceptable that she doesn´t want to talk with me-BECAUSE I AM LESBIAN.I am seriuosly thinking if is she my real friend(or was).Of course I was expecting this situation happen-but I wanted to say her who I truly am.
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HOW DULL IS THIS WORLD!-I CAN´T UNDERSTAND.

I´m going to call my friend.I hope I´l be able to make a good conversation.I´l try to do my very best.

I know the way to be a better friend is to listen. Most often that’s all I need to do, unless I’m asked a direct question when a friend is talking about something they are going through. Most often all that’s needed is an ear, not a mouth.

Also, when I feel judgemental thoughts invading, I’ve found I can switch the thoughts around to what’s truly dear and extraordinary about the person instead. We all need someone to accept us just as we are, and being ever mindful of this will help me with this goal.

Do not expect kindness from someone to whom you have been unkind.

Don’t expect more from someone you have given less.

Don’t expect to be befriended by someone to whom you have been unfriendly.

Don’t expect support from someone you have not supported.

Don’t expect time from someone you have not given equal time.

Don’t expect help from someone you have not equally helped.

Don’t expect gratitude from someone to whom you have not been gracious.

Don’t expect consideration from someone to whom you have not shown equal consideration.

A person who is befriended by many is also a person who has likely been friendly to many more.

A person who is helped by many is also a person who has likely been helpful to many more.

Don’t expect reciprocal care from someone who you have not clearly communicated an expectation of reciprocal care.

Don’t expect to be helped by everyone you help.

Don’t expect to be helped by others as much as you have helped them.

You must do many good things for others regularly if you hope to receive a lesser portion in return back to you.

By helping many, if you get lucky, you may find a few who are interested in doing like kind back to you.

By helping many, you will improve the odds of finding a few who are interested in doing like kind back to you.

If you don’t consider or try to understand these concepts, you will likely struggle with relationships.

I’ve traveled a lot, so I have a rather large postcard collection that I’ve picked up here and there. I’m trying to send out a few every week to different friends, just to say hi, or wish them good luck on something that’s coming up, or to send a hug. Who doesn’t like getting mail?

I was counseled two days ago with this analogy:

A long term relationship is like a marathon, the longer you continue it, the more difficult it can become.

I think some people have a possibly incorrect expectation about relationships – they perceive the longer you are in a relationship, the more “comfortable” and “easy” it should become.

But the only people having human relationships these days are humans, and we are a fairly sophisticated, desirous, and particular species.

You may have more success in your relationships by not expecting they will become easier, but rather expecting they will remain relationships between two different, not-identical, and independent-minded humans.

No one else makes you unkind to others.

If you are unkind to others, it is by your choice.

I thought for the longest time since i have amazing friends that it would make me one. It’s true my friends are amazing but I don’t call, or text them as often as I should. I would like to be the friend my friends can come to for a pick me up. I’m going to try once a week to do something for each of my friends and family as well, to let them know that I do truely appreciate them.

I’m hurting people I care about. I really can’t take that anymore. Like I am projecting the anger I feel to ones on the others who don’t deserve that. I feel like I’m a bad person and I’m starting to hate myself. Rational part of me knows that is all consequence of my mental condition but I still feel guilt. It’s awful. I just want it to stop. I need friends and I’m loosin’ them. How this can be true? It shouldn’t be like that :(