Be a better friend

I will let go of the ones that frequently dissapoint me, they are not worth to go through so much trouble for arranging “friend time” instead I will invest more time and energy in the friends that really are worth it. You can easily see the difference between the two categories of friends: on one side the ones who are so selfish and on the other side the ones who in general are happy with anything as long as we are doing something together. 2 weeks ago

I’ve planned a lot of friend dates for the next weeks,
my friends always have the feeling that I never have time for them, because I’m always occupied with other things. So I’ve decided to make an effort and I planned a lot of fun things to do with them. Today I’m going swimming with a friend, tomorrow I’m going to spend the whole afternoon and evening with another friend, etc. I’m willing to invest in my friendships, but some friends (have nothing better to do or what?)they want to see me every other day not to talk just for 5 minutes but to spend an hour or 5 with me and that I think is over the top to do weekly! Maybe it’s best to think of a routine to spend more time with friends. 3 weeks ago

And got back in touch with a friend I’d previously “fired” this past July, and we’ve gotten closer that ever. I’m trying to be less thin skinned with her, and communicate when things she says/does bother me. We’ve taken a trip to Charleston, SC together, see each other severly times a week at the gym, and usually get together at least once every three or four weeks to have dinner or a sleepover. 4 weeks ago

I’ve been working on this. I just got back from a walk with a friend who I’ve been missing. She sent me an e-mail and asked when we could get together, I procrastinated and sent her an e-mail days later with a suggestion, and then I didn’t her from her. Before setting this goal, I would have waited indefinitely to hear back from her, but instead, I called her up and found out that she’s been out of town. She came for tea this morning and we took a walk in the cold sunshine. So far, so good. Now, to answer a few more e-mails from old friends. I can learn how to do this after all these years. 2 months ago

Maybe it is giving up.But I think I’m just a good a friend when I have little contact.I still help people when they need me….I’m just not a very social person.So…don’t know about this one…. 2 months ago