stop someone from committing suicide

I’m from England, and when I was in my early 20’s, after finishing University, I’d decided to take some time out and travel to the USA for 3 months.

I’d only ever been to the US once before for a 4 week holiday when I was around 14years old and that was with the entire family, so it was nice to be going by myself on this occasion.

I travelled from Florida, up the east coast visiting lots of relatives along the way (Maryland, New York etc etc)..

It was whilst I was at NY that I got to meet some of my 1st cousins’s children (at that time they were around 5 – 6 years old, a boy and a girl). I, being from the UK amused them with my accent, and they too, amused me no end as they were tough little New Yorkers !!

I’d play with them endlessly, and we had such a ball. Always fooling around, always having fun, watching TV and cracking lots and lots and lots of jokes (just writing this up now makes me remember them all).

When I finally left NY after about 8 weeks being there, I was SO sad to say goodbye to these wonderful kids that had given me SO much pleasure. And when I’d gotten back to the UK, my cousins couldn’t understand what I’d done to her kids (they did not stop talking about me and how much they missed me).

Roll on about 14 years later and I learn one day that through relatives that that little boy (I don’t wish to name him here) that I knew all those years ago, had killed himself with a rifle. Apparently, he’d been threatening to do it quite a lot and he finally succeeded.

When I learned of this terrible news, I was SO upset, because I KNEW that if I’d have hooked up with him, he’d be here today. I am SO ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN of that.

I’d have done ANYTHING to have fixed that little boy. I’d have moved heaven and earth, packed in my job, sold my house, anything. I had nothing but lovely memories of him (even though I only knew him for a matter of weeks).

I can’t put a figure but I think VERY often about him and especially what I’d have been able to do for him (for example, I moved and lived abroad for 5 years in Africa and often dreamt that I would have taken him there with me to see how poor African’s lived happily, very happily even though they had very little).

I too myself have felt suicidal at times (twice in my 46 years of living), so I do appreciate that life can seem overwhelming, but now, thanks to nothing other than a positive attitude (something I’d lost due to my circumstances), plus seeing / living in Africa and seeing that happiness is really easily lost in a western/materialistic/consumerist environment. Also being grateful, showing appreciation and praying some (never prayed before) has helped me tremendously.

So, that missed chance of saving someone I really cared about, is why I’d like to achieve this goal (should it ever arise).

And I know that the pain lasted for years and years, and contemplating suicide can be an “escape” from life’s problems.
I try my best all the time, to give meaning to those who don’t have any, or who feel like they don’t want to live anymore.

I’m starting to date this girl. I feel more strongly about her than I’ve felt for anyone in a long time. And she’s planning on committing suicide at sometime next year, before the summer. She’s trusted me with this information, but she won’t tell me when in case I go and tell someone. But she’s planning on it none the less.

I have from now until then, whenever it may be, to make her change her mind. I have a couple months at most to establish everything I need to in order to connect with her enough to get her to not do it. I don’t have a lot of time, and I know it won’t be the easiest, but I’m going to give it my all because I care about her and want to be with her. Since I met her, it’s hard to imagine what life would be like without her, and I’d rather it didn’t come to that.

In January of ‘08, a really close friend of mine was thinking about suicide. I was really heartbroken and dreaded to even think of this. I had to do something to stop her from doing this, so I decided to talk to her, trying to find out why she was even thinking about suicide. She told me what the problems were, and why she didn’t want to carry on living the way she was. She felt that everyone hated her, and that she felt like she didn’t even exist. As I cared for her alot, I explained that not everyone hated her, and that I care for her more than anything else. After a long time of trying to stop her from doing what she had planned to do, she went. I was worried sick for absolutley ages, and began to fear the worst. However, about an hour later, she told me that she was feeling better after the talk, and thanked me for helping her with this. This is the best thing I’ve done in my life, as I managed to save one. Time passed after this event, with us being close friends, and we still are. I’m glad that he is still around, and hope she stays around for a very long time to come.
Strange thing is…I know exactly how she felt at the time she was making this drastic decision. I’ve felt the way she did for quite a while now, but I’m sure I won’t make the decision she was going to make.

well my friend kory was going to kill himself becuse his gf was going to dump him. well i talked to kory and talked him out of it and it was a rumor that she was going dump him. they are married and happy. idk its not to amazing but it counts

Matts story
Matt was a family member more like a brother. We were raised together our two families and this is how it all started. My mom got divoroced from my brothers dad then he remarried while he had three kids in that marriage and then they split up a few years later. well my mom and karen his ex wife became best friends and my mom and karens family me my sister two brothers and her three kids, Amy, Matt, Josh well we lived together too for a long time. We didn’t have much but we had eachother. there dad lived far away so my brother and them didnt get to see him as much but he loved his kids very much and we had a very hard life and differnt dads. well everything was kinda ok up till high school, Matt had some anger problems growing up didn’t think much of it but high school came he didnt have many friends in school but out of school he had alot of friends while my brothers friend witch were all older then him he was depressed but we didn’t know it he droped out of school and tried to fit in. but it wasnt working he had a hard time people like joe mclaren dumped chocolate milk on him made fun of him so he droped out … while after he droped out he couldnt take drivers ed that brotherd him even more while it boiled right befor that momen it was already bad enough he told my brother and other people he wanted to kill himself wrote letters no one believed him he was just full of anger while a few days befor he commited suicide we all got in a fight my brother me and he was sitting there and I said something really aful that day at least I had a dad who loved me and wanted me. I will never forget that look on his face. well a few days latter he seemed sad I was not one of them who knew he was thinking about doing it and they got ride of the letters. Well this March 8th of 2001 he got in a fight with a family member that moring because he was upset he couldnt take drivesr ed because he had droped out and he had a car and couldnt drive it this family memeber told him to do it when he threatend it and he called his mom and said it was a emergancy and her work wouldnt let him talk to her he called I think to say good bye. well after that he came into her our house while we were gone and grabed my step dads gun in the basement and I was suppose to be home to loan him money to go bowling. I was in a hury to get to work I too droped out but I went to homeschooling. well my mom got home and her friend and our dog was barking going nuts my mom walked in and seen a new pair of shoes she didnt reconize because she didnt know matt had gotten a new pair of shoes. she walked down in basement thinking someone was in our home that wasnt suppose to be. when she started walking down there she seen him but didn’t know it was him because of the gun and the way he killed himself not going into details but she walked up screaming her and pat went to neighbors and called 911 well my brother shows up at my work saying cops were sorrounding our house and he couldnt get threw so I called home and my step dad said that someone came into our home and shot themselfs then a few minutes later bye the shirt my sister new it was matt… she went over and got amy and amy identfied the shirt well I called back home not hearing from them and found out it was my brother not blood brother but brother at heart. so when I got home sadly I looked in the basement and as I was walking up out side cops were stoping me i was 16 and I seen him being taken out. When I came inside my mom told me not to look not knowing at that moment where it had happend and I looked and seen it all. Well I know what you are going threw and now I have a friend who has threatened to kill her son and herself so her ex husband cant keep him from her its been almost a year and she has not gotten help still very off and not mentaly there luckly she only gets her son every other weekand but still I have tried to tell her mom and her sister that she needs help beyond what they can give her they wont listen now im asking you all how can I legaly get her help? cops dont have proof what can i do?

In my life I have stopped three people from killing themselves. Two of which told me years later that I did.

I am an emotional person and have been told that I can zero in on a person who is hurting.

I like to let people get things off their chest. Growing up I couldn’t never really talk so I know how it is not be listen too.

I am realistic in knowing life is not perfect but to give up when the next day is a whole new begining to me seems like such waste of an opportunity. Each life on this earth is important.

I try not to judge anyone because I don’t know what life is in their shoes. I offer to help, to listen and to talk. Most times people just need to be heard. Other times people have a problem that they think can’t be solved by themselves but just need another person’s help.

There are a lot of times when it’s a medical reason a person wants to commit suicide and all you can really do is try to get the person the medical help they need. Go with them, support them, love them.

I’ve known people, personally, that have done this. Nothing is more heartbreaking, and if I could in any way influence someone NOT to do this…..

Now she’s more grounded than I am.

comitting suicide is wrong look at all the people that will miss u ur family people who do care about u and if u have a BF/GF im sure they would be really devastated and ur close friends i`ve help 2 people over come commiting suicide and they listened to me and who ever comes on this site realize that im trying to help im not ruling ur life and not trying to be ur master but i want to help u it may seem like it but im not im helping u i think i just said that two times but im just trying to get my point acrossed so who ever is gonna commit suicide please don`t