Since life is so precious I want to tell everyone that is important in my life that I love them and I am thankful for them

It’s been so nice to have a few hours with her each Friday. We have lunch, chat, laugh, she is a great listener; I tend to ramble when I’m with her. She has this paraffin hand wax thing. And we have been using it each Friday; it does make your hands super smooth!

I have had a chance to tell her how important she is and she has had a chance to tell me. I really enjoy the talks we’ve been having.

Why do people look at me like I have three heads when I do this? I have a hard enough time giving compliments, but when they finally come out of my mouth, most people just stare or shrug it off.

This should be THE most simple goal on my list, so WHY is it so complicated?

I’ve been doing better via expressing my appreciation to family members. I’m not out right able to say “I love you” to their faces most of the time, but I do sometimes say it on the phone when hanging up, or sometimes in emails. I am trying to do more things like staying in touch better, revealing more personal intricacies about myself and my faults.

This seems to cause my friends and family to be more open to me as well, or at least this is my perception so far.

I hope that in time, this gets easier.

Pamela

Well I guess this goal works both ways of course. I’m thankful for others and others being thankful for me! :-)

My husband wanted to surprise me for my birthday this year. He thought of three different things we could do that he thought I’d enjoy and wants me to now pick one of them (to make sure we do something I really want). He wanted it to be a surprise, but he wasn’t sure which one I’d want the most….

They are all so good. I’m stumped (and getting more and more excited the more I think of each one)! All three are great ideas and sweet of him to think of; I’d enjoy any of them! He says he wants me to pick the one I’d want to do the most since it’s my day and he wants it to be special (he actually said he is thankful for me so I figured it fit under this goal…).

1. Bed and breakfast at a very nice B&B not too far from home (we have talked about staying at this place for about 3 years or more now).
2. Roadtrip to six flags (we’ve never been but talked about it for years!)
3. Rent a cabin (a nice cottage rather) at the lake for the entire weekend. I have looked into cabins for us to stay at in the past, but they were kind of rustic, the one he suggested is very nice! And they only have one left! I need to hurry up and make up my mind!

Maybe I’ll put them all in a hat and just draw one out! :-)

After beging together for over 18 years and married almost 10 we have had our ups and downs, our agreements and disagreements; a roller coaster of emotions at times. And the past year has been no exception. BUT the past month has been a Godsend.

It’s like we are on the same path, walking side by side once again instead of only seeing each other in the distance. Things are so simple now with no confusion. Sometimes life throws obstacles your way and lack of time or other issues make you think you have to figure it all out on your own…but you don’t.

I can’t put it all into words, it’s just like the light has been lit once again and I really don’t see it going dim ever again. We have more clarity now than we ever have; even better communication. He’s always been my best friend and 18 years of experience and growth has made us even closer than ever. I’m truly thankful. Very very thankful that all the pieces are fitting together so nicely. We are working on future goals together, not on just our own and that is a blessing. Yep, very thankful and happy indeed. :-) I could go on and on, but for now I’ll stop.

Can’t you all feel my “meaning-well-ness”? Truly. I mean to send thank you cards. I mean to call. I mean to visit. I mean well.

Hugs,
Pamela

Saturday I ran some errands then went to see my mom. It was just her and I and we talked about everything from my childhood to my lip gloss making desire. :-)

It was nice to just talk for hours, we have not done that in a long time. We have seen one another but not just talked and laughed. She told me she really enjoyed it and I told her I was thankful for the hours we got.

If this entry should go here, but I think it should.

Spent some time this weekend with my mother and sister. We have not actually done anything together in a long time. We have chatted and eaten together, but no projects. I love doing whatever I can with the two of them, but I really enjoy the simple little projects. Before the Holiday I had bought a set of shrinky dinks. And Sat. we spent about 3 hours tracing and coloring! It was SOO much fun. It was like time stopped and we laughed and enjoyed every moment. And we all told the others how much we loved them. It’s a moment that will be cherished forever. And aren’t my ‘dinks’ cute?! lol They shrank A LOT! They are so adorable, if I do say so myself…

Regarding my prior post—- I still have yet to send the card to my mother-in-law. Sheesh, what is so hard about this?

The person I’d like to thank today and tell her I love her is my mother-in-law. She makes special efforts all of the time to help us out by watching the kids, doing special things for us and the kids, buying them clothes, wintercoats and toys, taking them to get their haircuts or flu shots when I was too ill to be able to do it or didn’t have time because of work.

I am a hard person to get to know. I’ve been hard for her to understand, as a daughter-in-law. She and I are as different as night and day, but we share the same love for my kids, and for this I am so grateful. I love her so much and feel so much respect for her. I wish I could tell her, without making her uncomfortable.

She is one of those types of mother-in-laws who would be extremely uncomfortable, I think, with a verbalisation of this variety. I think I will start by sending a card.

What do you guys think?

In thanks,
Pamela

OK! So I spent a whole 3 days at some retreat doing this nonsense…it was kind of wierd, but i wont lie, i felt changed. i didn’t tell like Aakash or another friend, but I don’t feel the need since Aakash really already knows and I’m sure the other person could care less one way or the other.