the other day i stopped by starbucks to grab a drink and sat down to read part of my book. who needs company when you’ve got a good book in your hands? 22 months ago
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How I did it: I think that probably I will never stop depending on others for my happiness, because we live with, for, and always need others. But, I also believe that I stoped completely depending on others for my happiness. And I'm learning, with God's help, to live by myself, for myself, and express my living to others. I had noticed a change on it because when somebody insults me or act badly with me, instead of being blue or down, I just think to myself "Hey!, they can't hurt you if you don't allow them" and I really try, and I really make it. At least for now. =) Read how I did it… 2 years ago
I think I’m doing better with this but now that I’m married I’m afraid I will depend on my husband too much for my happiness. 2 years ago
I’ve been wondering for a long time that I am depending upon others for my plans. It’s like i have always been dependent upon others for hangouts. We’re friends and whenever I plan something out, someone’s always got a problem joining. Someone’s always got an excuse that he tries to make so valid resulting into a freaked out plan being cancelled. I just hate it. So I’m seriously considering to eff them up when they make excuses and move ahead with my new friends to keep plans in sync. It’s so irritating that my old best friends are trying to tell me that they prioritize taking rest, sleeping, or studying over me ? I mean they not gonna study 24 hours a day.. ? :-/
I am increasing my friend’s circle to become more social and independent with my plans to have fun. :) 3 years ago
I have a lot of friends who I feel are rather flaky – we’ll make plans, and inevitably, they will bail with a really lame excuse. Plans destroyed, I usually don’t have anything else to do and end up spending another lame night at home by myself.
And I’m tired of it. So, why not just say eff them and do what I want to do anyway? I’m working my way towards this…I think the irritation is just awful though. I don’t believe in wasting time, so don’t waste mine if you know you’re either not into it or have something else to do. Aside from irritation, it makes me feel pretty bad about myself – like I’m so terrible to be around that if anything else comes up you’ll take it. To that, I say go fuck yourself, wash my hands of it, and pursue what I want to whether or not you’re coming along.
Point in case:
Chicago with Stephanie. Sounded fun, end result, disaster.
Making vision boards with Amanda. You’re seriously going to make me feel like your freaking LAUNDRY is more important than an hour with me?
I need new friends. And to not care so much about other people and start taking care of myself first. 3 years ago
How I did it: Up to the day of the accident, I was having dreams that I lost the use of my legs and had to drag myself across the ground in order to move. Then bam, I'm hit from behind by a van while riding my motorcycle and I'm lying on the pavement writhing in pain.I laugh all the way to the hospital, and while in the emergency room. I laugh maniacally. Those endorphins kicked in and I laughed some more.
After I got home I took that bi-polar high and used it to kick start my writing projects. It has been frustrating, but I've learned that if not now, when? Read how I did it… 3 years ago