Get rid of the negative people in my life

Here’s my plan..

Announce that I will not discuss work.. Boring!
Spend my lunch time away from kitchen – go for walks, pray- stay away from negative people.
Tell people to speak to boss about their concernes
Give them a reality check..
Stop being negative..

Hakuna Matata!! It’s just Dunya, It’s just Dunya, It’s justy Dunya!

I’ll guess I can start with myself as I do a bit of the moaning too. I will start by thinking positively of work because:

1. I am learning a lot!
2. My boss has over looked my colour, hijab and lack of solid experience in certain aspects of the job and gave me an opportuniy.
2. I am learning so MUCH- Everyday.
3. I need this experience for my career progression..It is vital.
4. The money isn’t great but decent. I can help family, save money, pay off debts, buy me treats. It’s good money.
5. I love the main aspect of my job- kids. They inspire, amuse and give a reason to hope for a brighter future- corny!
6.I am not bored at home fearing for the death of my brain as I did for the last 3 years.
7. If it gets too bad- I can always leave. It’s not prison.
8. My boss has a good moments.. she actually listens to me and asks for my ideas… not bad!
9. There’s a few people that I like- genuinely.
10. I have a job- with the recession, that’s something.
11. I might be away from the kids for long – I still get to go home to them every night, read them stories, feed them, play with them.. That’s a blessing many mothers I’ve come across are deprived off..

I’ve the most negative collegues on earth at work.. BEFORE they even say hello on the first day of work – they start bitching… about the boss.. about their hours, their salary. The organisation we work for isn’t the best I’ve been at and that is the reason that I don’t these negative voices to keep reminding me… I want to be able to go in, do my work and leave with out the bitching, drama and moaning. I feel bad enough as it is. I’ve decided that since I was the one that applied for the job.. the one that continues to get out of my bed, leave my kids behind and go to work without being forced – I should learn to live with the bad. I’ll be there for a year and then I can look for a better job. Just one year. I will be okay.

I’ve the most negative collegues on earth at work.. BEFORE they even say hello on the first day of work – they start bitching… about the boss.. about their hours, their salary. The organisation we work for isn’t the best I’ve been at and that is the reason that I don’t these negative voices to keep reminding me… I want to be able to go in, do my work and leave with out the bitching, drama and moaning. I feel bad enough as it is. I’ve decided that since I was the one that applied for the job.. the one that continues to get out of my bed, leave my kids behind and go to work without being forced – I should learn to live with the bad. I’ll be there for a year and then I can look for a better job. Just one year. I will be okay.

I am so sick of being in a good mood, just to let someone ruin it for me. The other night I was watching Glee (my favorite show) and my guest kept saying awful, hateful things about the characters. There was no reason at all for it! It’s not like I was offended that he was talking about them and I took it personally, but the whole energy of the rest of the night was ruined! Why make racist, bigoted comments against people because they’re hispanic or in a wheelchair? How much of a hateful person do you have to be to get mad at a TV show like Glee?! Seriously?!

I don’t need their company so I have decided to get them out of my life. From here on we are nothing but mere aquaintances. Because to tell you the truth, they are starting to piss me off with their fakeness and patronising ways. Who do they think they are anyway? They are just pathetic as far as I am concerned!!!

I deleted my negative friend from my MySpace and sent him an email explaining that right now his negativity was spilling into my life and that I couldn’t be around him because it was harming me as well. I don’t know if that puts most of the blame/pressure on me or on him, but I had to do something. He probably blames me and I blame him. We’re probably both at fault: I see him as being massively angry, bitter and depressing, and he probably sees me as being a disloyal bitch. Something had to give somewhere though…

I woke up at 4 AM thinking “I’m proud of you”. It’s never easy to cut ties with people, especially friends of long-standing, but I did a lot yesterday. I have not deleted him entirely as a MySpace friend, nor have I actually told him what I’m doing—in a way it’s harsh to sit down and say “I don’t want to be friends with you anymore because you’re so negative” but maybe it will get to that.

I feel so much better today, like a weight has been lifted off me. I tried so hard with this friend, it’s not like I’m bailing at the first sign of trouble. I just needed to do it.

I cannot at this time completely get rid of my exposure to this friend, especially on MySpace, but I did limit my exposure to his negativity. I took him off all the updates, etc. I can’t stand his stupid negative updates 4 times a day. I can’t stand his stupid “I’m going to kill myself” blogs in metered rhyme any more. He won’t accept help and he won’t get help himself. It just makes me angry and unhappy. I am so done. I don’t need him or his crap. My life is just starting over and I refuse to let him hold me back. I cannot do anything more for him…..

I wish I had done this a long time ago. I think that right now, anyway. I’ve decided to walk away from my friend at this time. It doesn’t have to be forever, but as long as he is so violently negative, I will not stand in his orbit anymore and let that seepage touch me. I don’t have to.

I do care about him, but HE is the only one who can help him. I cannot make him do anything he doesn’t want to do, and that includes getting help.

Part of me wonders if I’m being a selfish, cold-hearted bastard. Maybe part of me is. I know he would sarcastically tell me “I can see how much you care about your friends”. My answer would be “you don’t care about yourself. Tell me one good reason why I should continue hurting for you? You need to step up and take care of yourself.”

Maybe I am just a jerk….but who says we have to keep our friends around forever, thick and thin? I think loyalty of that nature may be over-rated. Sometimes, it really may just be better to let go.