Get rid of the negative people in my life

I have had too many negative experiences, i was abused as a child, i lost 3 members of my family,in a space of 10 years(brother,mom,dad. Another brother has a mental disorder,my heart has been broken 3 times consecutively from failed relationships, i have no form of support whatsoever, it was so hard for me to concentrate on my studies, i had to drop out of school, right now i’m unemployed and i just want to stay in my room all day,i dnt pick my calls i hardly take a shower,i have panic attacks,i’m depressed,i have so much anxiety, i feel so much pain in my heart, when i try to laugh,the pain is still there to top it all off, i have so many TOXIC people in my life, they are so strategically placed that its hard to get rid of them….i try but they’ll always find a way to come back…i’m being told that i am a very beautiful lady and i should stay positive…but when i look in the mirror i see …ugly, rejected, not good enough…tell me how do i see the light at the end of the tunnel and stay positive?

everyday is negative and i want it to stop.

I’ve got a pretty good handle on this, enough that I believe I can safely call this “accomplished”.

While not all of the negative people in my life are removed, the majority of the most poisonous ones are, and I’m actively working to continue this trend.

Most recently I stepped up to the task of calling a woman out on her negativity via letter; she’s been giving me non-stop grief over the course of five years in the form of attempting to tear my self-esteem apart and also attempts at making me conform to her religion (one that hates pretty much everything I believe in). It was a very refreshing experience.

I’ve also gotten quite a lot better at heading off potential negativity from people; be it either by simply saying something about it, or by walking away when the other party refuses to listen or change their habits.

All in all? It’s become a part of my lifestyle and I’m pleased with the results thus far.

One of my friendships drained me, almost to the point of nothing. We used to be best friends, and we spent a ton of time together.

I found though, if I did something she didn’t approve of, even if it had nothing whatsoever to do with her, she would freak out on me, tell me I was a horrible person, and shut me out of her life for a few weeks.

After those few weeks were up, she’d come back to me, sometimes in tears, saying she was sorry and that she couldn’t live without me in her life.

This went on for ages. The accusations and the dragging around drove me nuts. There were so many things about her that I didn’t even like, but I never freaked on her or tried to make her feel like she was a horrible person due to these things.

Slowly but surely, we’ve been drifting apart. More often than not, if she asks me to hang out, I say I’m busy. We talk less and less, and although I’ll miss the good times, I am not sure they were really worth all of the bad times.

Because of my strong desire to remove her from my life due to the havoc she was wreaking on my mind and soul, I became inspired to remove many people from my life that were pulling me down. As much as I love them, the majority of people I was close friends with are into drugs, don’t have jobs, and have no motivation to go anywhere in life. Most of them, I don’t really talk to anymore. The few that I do talk to, I don’t talk to often.

There are other people in my life who I feel are dead weight on me. I am not ridiculously close with them, so I am hoping that letting go of them will not be so difficult. Mind you, I only have a small handful of people I’m holding onto. Perhaps I should start being social and making new friends again.

Whatever I do, I must get rid of those who pull me down.

I don’t kno if this person is a negative person or just someone who puts me into a negative mood. It’s like the more im around her the more i dont want to be. And when i don’t see her for a long time i don’t feel too bad. Maybe it’s me…

WELL I HAVE BEEN DOING THIS LATELY BUT IT STILL HURTS SO BAD. THE PEOPLE THAT I AM HAVING TO LET GO ARE PEOPLE THAT I LOVE AND CARE ABOUT. ITS NOT JUST AQUAINTENCES CAUSE THAT WOULDN’T BE HARD AT ALL.I FEEL LIKE I AM GOING CRAZY AND THAT I AM LOOSING PARTS OF MY HEART EVERY TIME I DO THIS. I WAS CRYING SO BAD TONIGHT CAUSE I MISS ALL THE PEOPLE I LET GO. YEAH THEY ARE BAD FOR ME BUT AT THE SAME TIME I LOVE THEM. ITS JUST SO HARD. IN THE END I KNOW THINGS WILL BE BETTER. BUT FOR RIGHT NOW ITS HARD. I FEEL SO SAD ALMOST SUICIDAL CAUSE I FEEL HOPELESS AND ALONE. NOW I WOULD NEVER ACTUALLY KILL MYSELF CAUSE THATS JUST NOT ME, BUT DEATH ALMOST SEEMS EASIER THEN GOING THROUGH WHAT I AM RIGHT NOW. I ALREADY HAD ONLY A FEW FRIENDS ALMOST NONE. AND NOW I GOT 5 LESS. AND COUNTING. SINCE THERE IS STILL MORE TO GO. IN THE END I AM GOING TO HAVE LIKE 2 FRIENDS AND JUST AQUAINTENCES AFTER THIS IS OVER. I’M GONNA HAVE TO START FROM THE BOTTOM UP AGAIN. I’M SO TORN UP OVER THIS RIGHT NOW ITS DRIVING ME CRAZY. I COULDN’T EVEN GET THE FRIENDS THAT I LET GO BACK..EVEN IF I WANTED TO..THEY WONT TALK TO ME NOW.MAYBE ONE OR TWO OF THEM WOULD BUT STILL I CANT GO BACK I NEED TO LOOK FORWARD BUT MY HEART IS BEING TORN TO SHREDS WHILE I DO THIS.UGH I WISH THIS COULD BE SIMPLE..ANYONE GOT ADVICE CAUSE IDK WHAT TO DO ANYMORE :(

I GOT SO MANY NEGATIVE PEOPLE IN MY LIFE..IT IS NOT EVEN FUNNY..I DONT KNOW WHERE I FIND THESE PEOPLE OR WHY THEY ARE SO MEAN TO ME..OR JUST STRAIGHT UP NEGATIVE BUT FOR SOME REASON I SEEM TO ATTRACT PEOPLE LIKE THIS..MAYBE THATS BECAUSE IT IS HOW I AM..I WANT TO BE HAPPY..NOT DEPRESSED..I WANT TO SEE THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL NOT FOCUS ON THE DARK..BUT IT IS HARD TO HAVE A GOOD ATTITUDE ABOUT THINGS WHEN ALL U HEAR IS THE NEGATIVE…I REALLY NEED TO GET RID OF THESE PEOPLE BUT I AM SCARED THAT ONCE I DO I AM NOT GONNA HAVE ANYONE BECAUSE ALMOST EVERYONE I TALK TO HAS SOME KIND OF NEGATIVITY AND THEY MAKE ME THINK THE SAME WAY…AND HOW DO I CHOOSE WHO TO PICK TO STOP TALKING TO AND WHO TO KEEP TALKING TO..THIS IS COMPLICATED BUT I KNOW I WANT TO DO IT..I CAN THINK OF ONE PERSON IN PARTICULAR THAT MAKES ME FEEL REALLY GOOD..AND THEN CAN TOTALLY RUIN MY WHOLE DAY WITH A FEW WORDS…NOW ONE MINUTE HE ACTS LIKE I AM SUCH A GOOD FRIEND THEN NEXT HE IS TALKING ABOUT HOW HE REGRETS EVER MEETING ME..HE IS SO CONFUSING AND NEGATIVE..I THINK HE HAS GOT TO GO..BUT IT IS HARD TO STOP TALKING TO HIM CUZ I REALLY LIKE HIM…BUT HIS NEGATIVITY IS WHAT MAKES ME HATE THE WAY HE ACTS…IDK WHAT TO DO..BUT I THINK HE HAS G2G.

I had another negative person pop up in my life; and rather than put up with the drama that I might have in the past, I quickly and quietly removed myself from the situation and from their “friendship”. The other person has tried causing even more drama as a result within our circle of friends, but luckily that has been evaded as well through calm rationality and peaceful discussion with those third parties.

This is really coming together for me. I’ve been getting closer with people that I can really trust. They don’t sit around and make fun of me and they’re actually the ones calling me and asking to hang out. They’re content with just hanging out sometimes but we also do really cool stuff, where as my old friends saw it as pointless to even leave the house unless it was some big adventure (and that adventure had to be free, not at their house, require no driving on their part, and not go past midnight…riiiight). I still see my old friends, but very rarely, maybe once a month or two, and only at group gatherings. I like things how they are right now. I don’t think I want some people to be completely cut out of my life, but I don’t want to be close with them either.

I’ve learned something else within the past few months, which I should’ve known a longtime ago. The only negative people in your life are the ones you allow to get to you. If you can brush it away and allow yourself to think more positive, you will become a stronger person. Playing their game only makes things worse. You aren’t the one with the problem and the negative ones are the ones who can’t or don’t want to help themselves… Anyone agree?