be a better listener

however…..there is so much I could say tonight..had you been or had this been your goal….
because if it was..you would have heard my heart break..as I tried again, to make some sense of our life together,,,,,
or better yet our life apart…..not physically, but mentally…

In the art of conversation the person who is thought of fondly is the one who listens more. I heard someone in my field talking about the rule of 3.

Ask 3 questions (andlisten to the answers!) before you can say 1 thing.

Now to put it into practice!

but I don’t hear, schedules, times, places or events…
I mean, I do, I just don’t remember them real well.
But I hear, your heart, those words, that you say to me, while we lie in the dark…....
because, your heart, has some much to say…so much, that no one hears, there are others, that will remember, your flight schedule…your work schedule…when the have to pick you up, and when they have to drop you off..
And I, might arrive late..to pick you up, but I would remember that your favorite dessert is ice cream..that you like your steak medium to rare..that I could name every single one of your friends, and know, why they were and are important in your life

I went to a silent retreat today – about five hours of sitting by a creek reading, meditating and writing about trusting God. I read about really listening without planning what to say next. Also read and thought about listening to the quiet voice of God. Good stuff!

argue less, although iam invariably right. put my views across without being confrontational. be mor mature and listen.

I want to practise active listening more often.

that I was this to you…while you were home…All I know, is that one minute it was May and in a blink of an eye..we packed the car, and headed you back off to college today….
In case you didn’t know, I heard you, every concern, every happiness, ever potential goal…..
And even though, your miles away right now, I still hear you

i need to learn how to listen to people and just be an ear for them to vent without speaking or saying my opinion

One thing I notice about myself is this: as someone else is talking, I am thinking about what I am going to say next that relates to what they are saying. But am I really listening? If it’s casual conversation, that’s one thing, but if the person is really trying to tell me something, am I getting it? I don’t think so.

I want to do this and become more successful