you and I have had our differences, in the past..no doubt..I thought, you should have, could have, set a better example for your sons…been a better dad..
After time, we came to an understanding, and I actually saw you become, the father and grandfather, I always knew you could be..
You have spent many a summer with us, but this time, might be your last, for you, have been told, that you have less than a year to live….
And oddly, I admire, you..your outlook, you, asking for help when you need it, not taking unnecessary risks…I know your afraid..I hoped that I have listened ..that I re assured you enough, that only God knows when you will be called home….
This visit is much different, our roles have changed….
and I am watching a man, right now right the wrongs…in his life..so, I am listening, perhaps more than I ever have, in my life
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How to be a better listener
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 "I just paid attention to the flow of the conversation, not the chatter in my mind."
How I did it: I've taken classes in crisis counseling before, so I knew that to let people talk about themselves first, especially if they were upset about something. Ask open-ended questions, such as: "Tell me what you were feeling and what it made you do when he did that" instead of: "Were you mad?"
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AbiGee is going to dare herself!
This is something I have to work on in a very big way. I know alot of me wanting to get my point across and interupting has alot to do with not being heard when I was a young girl. Also being riduculed and teased so much also.
I’m too busy wanting to defend myself that I miss key things.
I’m going to try and listen intently without all this stuff in my head (what am I going to say next)
Its a very important key in communication. Its amazing what you can pick up on when you listen keenly.
I always interupt and its such a bad habit…
Airey =)
I talk way to much and really lack listening to others. My sister gets so upset because i never listen to her ever. I want to listen better so I’m really going to change my talk to much and never listen to just enough of both =)
kinorkahol will be ok!
I actually think I have improved on this one. I really do care what people say.
from the young women I work with….and it always comes down to the same thing…the text he sent or the text he did not respond to…..
Texting is ranked (in my book anyway) as the number one killer of personal relationships….I try to tell these lovely young ladies, that the man behind the text, is not..Edward Cullens..he will not text you..”you shot across my life like a meteor, and there was beauty and light” Instead, you’ll get a response, like “yep” or “nope”or “K”...
And I have heard so many young ladies tell me, “It’s over, I sent him a text and got no response” Geez, he’s a guy,,,am no expert, but I have been married to a man with a cellphone for many years. I have found that cellphone, under the seat of his car, inside the cushions of our couch, and occasionally, in the dog’s mouth…if I was to rely, on his response or lack thereof, via text, we would have been divorced a looooong time ago
Relationships, are formed, by looking into someone’s eyes, watching the expression on their face and the infliction of their voice, it is “Listening” not reading about, what they have to say
One of my oldest and dearest friends told me the other day (unprompted and unknowing that this was a goal of mine) that I am a really good listener! Woo hoo! I’m not quite ready to say this goal is completed as yet however. I’ll wait until I have at least two more affirmations.
read a reat articl eabout active listening. need to talk less about myself for starters.
SlayneB she flew from peak to peak with the freedom of an eagle...
I also make a point of getting off the phone sooner. It seems to be helping. And weirdly, I have less and less to say, so I just listen, checking in, then I’m on my way. It is so strange the way all of this is tying in together.
lotzlisa achy!
I do not listen. I love to talk, and I expect people to listen, but I just wait for my turn to talk again. Then I beat myself up and feel awful for doing it yet again. I seem to only remember to listen when there is nothing to listen to. I think it’s really keeping me from having friends.
maureenmcell is feeling the love.
but I have definitely modified my behavior so that I tune in to the other person. I wait to comment until I really know what he or she is trying to say. If the other person does not appear to be asking for my reaction, I do my best to hold it in!
I like this new style. I will actually sit quietly and just notice what others are saying around me. I no longer feel the need to entertain or fill in awkward silences.
I do believe I will mark this intention completed!
