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    ilovemydogbear is at school

    Less Selfish 2 months ago

    If I’m less selfish then I would feel better about myself. Be a better person.



    jamieleee is in need of taking inventory of her goals,

    Untitled 2 months ago

    sponsored a child from tanzania for 32$ a month. my selfish thinking self would not want to do this..because “that’s 32$ I could be using”..but really..32$ is me not going out to eat a few times. Doing things for other people (for the right reasons) will help combat selfishness. haha however..it does make me wonder..is there every truly a selfless good deed?



    ivyrose13 is a school psychologist

    Calling this done 3 months ago

    I have kept this at the front of my mind for a couple of months now. After a heart to heart with my husband, I have been putting forth effort to “build people up” and compliment them for things that would normally go unnoticed. I’m now employed as a school psychologist, where my entire career is helping out the less fortunate. While I am certain that I will occasionally have selfish moments (we all do), and I am aware that this is one goal that is technically never complete, in comparison to where I was at the beginning of the year, I feel that I have made sufficient progress to cross this goal off the list.



    selfishness 3 months ago

    i am almost ALWAYS thinking about myself and it makes me sad. one of my best friends tells me i never stop worrying about other people but i dont believe it. i think i do whatever is best for me even if it hurts somebody :( at least i recognize it though i spoze.



    selfishness 3 months ago

    i am almost ALWAYS thinking about myself and it makes me sad. one of my best friends tells me i never stop worrying about other people but i dont believe it. i think i do whatever is best for me even if it hurts somebody :( at least i recognize it though i spoze.



    selfishness 3 months ago

    i am almost ALWAYS thinking about myself and it makes me sad. one of my best friends tells me i never stop worrying about other people but i dont believe it. i think i do whatever is best for me even if it hurts somebody :( at least i recognize it though i spoze.



    shyness=selfishness 3 months ago

    my selfishness is a huge result of my lack of self confidence. i know that if i concentrated on others more than myself i’d be and feel like a much better person =)



    Defensive selfishness 5 months ago

    Thinking in a self-centered way is a major defense mechanism for me when I am depressed, but that puts distance between me and others and pushes me further inside my own head, which I already am because I work in a solitary field.

    For right now, the goal is: do something concrete (e.g., something that takes more than 5 minutes) every day that helps someone else without regard to whether I want to.

    Yesterday I spoke with my roommate’s ex-boyfriend for 3 hours, counseling him on what he can do to most help her. (It’s complicated.) I was frankly grateful for the opportunity.



    ivyrose13 is a school psychologist

    Holding myself back 5 months ago

    As I become more aware of my interactions with other people, I have noticed that I tend to steal the spotlight. This may not fall under the traditional definition of selfish, but it is kind of selfish to always be the center of attention. I am now making a conscious effort to hold myself back.

    Yesterday, there was a end-of-the-school-year picnic and my first grade teacher happened to be retiring. So much did I want to jump up, take the microphone, and talk about how she was my first grade teacher and now I have two master’s degrees. Looking at it in writing now, makes me realize how completely inappropriate that would have been. I held myself back, and after the picnic, I thanked the teacher privately. In the end, thanking the teacher privately was so much more personal, and she really appreciated it.



    ivyrose13 is a school psychologist

    A conscious effort 5 months ago

    I don’t like to think of myself as selfish; however, observing the selfishness of others has really caused me to sit back and reflect. I am going to make it a conscious effort to not be selfish and to think of other people first. Hopefully I will become a better person because of it.



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