Becoming less social was a slow process. I chose to sit around and wait for people to have time and invite me to hang out. My bad. I assumed that because no one called that no one wanted to hang out. My bad. In addition to that, I found myself increasingly selfish with the free time I had. I turned down things I was invited to do. My bad. I have flirted with volunteering but never done it, even when opportunities presented themselves. My bad.

As my nieces and nephew get older, I find that we don’t really know each other. I always wanted to be the cool aunt, not just the default aunt. My friends have kids I don’t know well, and who don’t know me well. I wanna fix that.

As a starter, I have begun to do what I can online (mostly thru Facebook) to support and encourage my friends’ kids who post musical things. I’m going to a performance this weekend where two kids will be playing in the pit band for a musical. It is a start.

I’m also attempting to figure out gatherings with friends. Hosting is an issue as we have 3 cats and a rabbit, and many of my friends are allergic. How can that be overcome? 10 months ago

I used to think I was quite generous, give my time to others but must look out for myself because if I don’t who will. I would constantly get out of helping my parents saying i have homework, which I did, but in hindsight could have waited 10 more minutes to be done.

Thing is charity begins at home, practice a spirit of service at home with people who will love you no matter what. Practicing with people you love is easier than with complete strangers and will soon become a habit which will translate to who people know you as: “Yeah she’s the kind girl who helped me out when she didnt need to.”

Achievement will mean being more aware of people’s needs and feeling at ease when helping and also being willing to give of yourself. You do it for the good feeling in your heart. 13 months ago